Keeping In Contact:If you're going to have a chance of making a long distance relationship work then you've got to keep in contact with each other on a regular basis and by regular I don't mean a phone call every few days I mean some kind of daily contact. A chat before bed can work well and is an easy routine to get into. If that doesn't suit you then emails and text messages can work but in my experience (3 years of long distance) they aren't quite the same as hearing someone’s voice. You need to have plenty to talk about when you do chat with each other and if you're struggling for topics then just telling each other about your day can be enough. Your daily chats don't have to be three hours long they just need to be enough to let the other person know what's going on in your life and give you time to find out what's going on in theirs. Keeping in contact is essential to making a long distance relationship work. Get into a routine of daily phone calls and you'll have this base covered.
When You See Each Other:Given that you're in a long distance relationship the times when you actually get to see each other are very important. At this stage I can't stress enough how important it is to see each other as much as possible. If you can do it every weekend then you should. The more time you spend together the more chance you have of making your long distance relationship work.When you do get together it's important that you do things which have meaning. By this I mean don't just sit in front of the TV. Instead go out for a meal, to the cinema, on a day trip or even just for a romantic walk. You need to give yourselves things to think about when you're not together and in doing fun things when you get the chance you'll remind each other why you're putting so much effort into staying together.
The Burden Of Long Distance:There's no doubt that being in a long distance relationship isn't easy but if you are going to make it work then you need to share the burden. By this I mean you both need to put the same amount of effort into making the relationship work. It's no good if one person is always traveling to see the other person. You need to take it in turns so that it's clear you both want to make it work. It's also important when you're in a long distance relationship to be there for your partner even when you're not there. If they need a chat on the phone because their feeling low or they have some exciting news they want to share then make sure you make time for them. You need your relationship to be as normal as possible and even though you're apart it feels like you're very much involved in each others lives.
About the Author: This is a Guest Post by David Lenton who has just set up BestDatingWebsites.org which is a website that shows people what the best dating sites are for them. Included are the best English dating sites as well as the best sites for people all over the Globe.
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