The online dating community has been observing the explosion of Facebook over the last couple of years. And they have done so without smiles on their faces. The traditional online dating community continues to inform that their number of users has grown. And of course it has. How many do you think delete a dating profiles instead of just abandoning it? That's right – traditional online dating sites now have more inactive users than ever and that is primarily because of Facebook.
So why would you switch from match.com to dating on Facebook? Well, first of all the number of singles is the biggest on ANY web site. Sure, not all have added dating applications, but they are still there – and an increasing number of people successfully contact them anyway. Another reason is the ease; why have an extra login to another site when you can control friends, family and dating partners via one website? And finally, the cost. Match.com is 100s of dollars a year, and that's exactly 100s of dollars more than Facebook.
Getting started dating on Facebook, most users turn to the dating applications that are similar in terms of use to normal dating websites. You search via criteria and you get a result list. You meet, say hello and so forth. Zoosk, Best Match and “Are You Interested” are the most popular and although you may have to pay to contact members via their normal profile, some features are still free.
These apps are easy to use: They are intuitive, they have plenty of active users and by upgrading to a “gold” or “premium” profile you can contact a lot of active users (that's right, they have active users!). But then we're really just back to the traditional dating sites: Paying a fee and getting dates.
However, and increasing number of people have found out that there are a lot of other ways to meet singles on Facebook. And there are many ways to choose from.
One of the easier ways is looking through your friends friends and politely ask your friend to introduce you. It actually works well and having your friend recommend you is a very good start in any relationship.
Another method people use is searching for interest or fan groups. And if this group is local, even better. You will then have a pool of people with the same interests as you, living in the same area. Having a favored artist, a hobby or a musical style in common makes that first step very easy and natural.
What people ask the most when starting out dating on Facebook is: “But what should I write first?” And they're right, it can be a bit tricky sending someone you haven't talked to before an email. My experience is that you need to throw 2 things into the initial email to be successful:
First of all, you should mention the thing you have in common. Not say it directly but just mention it. It will be noticed. And the the second – make a comment about their photo that they just have to reply to. Not a “sugar-coated-sweet-one”, but a fun one that's a little cheeky. Remember, you have to stand out.
If you are both fans of the latest local punk band (and who wouldn't be!) you could start the conversation like this:
Hi! I noticed you're a fan of GROUP NAME! You going to the gig on Friday or will you be rolling around town on those old school roller blades I see in your photo?”
This is a subtle first email. Nice, polite and it indicates you have something in common. And then it's just a little cheeky. And best of all – it's easy to answer to the email and it could end up as a real match. Without a fee.
About the Author : This is a Guest Post from Facebookdater who is the owner of Facebookdater.com, a blog dedicated to dating on social media websites.
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