Falling in love - someday it will happen to you. You will find yourself suddenly falling in love and it will amaze you.
You can't run away from it.
Love eventually catches up with everyone. It may be sooner or later. Whatever the time, however long it takes, you can be absolutely sure someday you will fall head over heels in love with someone.
But that is not the scary part.
The part that scares most people is the fact that love sometimes tend to be blind - or so it seems.
The truth is . . . true love is hard to come by. Real love is rare.
When you finally find something that seems like true love, you grab it with both hands. You invest everything you've got in it. Unfortunately, you may find out months later that it isn't real love.
You have been chasing a dream!
That brings us back to the really scary part. Love tends to be blind. People falling in love tend to be irrational and illogical. The love emotion takes over. Thereafter nothing else matters.
Why is this scary?
The answer is simple. Love can be destructive. Love, blind love, can ruin your life.
Yes, some kind of love is blind love. This kind of love is infatuation.
True love or real love, is constructive and up-building. True love is . . .
Realistic
Compassionate
Considerate
Unselfish
Practical and down-to-earth
Blind love or infatuation is unrealistic, selfish, and destructive.
When falling in love, ask yourself what kind of love you are falling into. Is it true love or infatuation? Is your love based on unselfish and realistic expectations or on a fantasy?
Consider an example of how blind love, infatuation, can be.
Sharon was from a decent and wealthy home. She was an undergraduate who had everything she wanted. She was astoundingly beauty and well-trained and cultured. Understandably, suitors came in droves.
Her father's wealth poured her way so she was rich in the accepted sense of the word. The suitors asking her hand in marriage were just as rich. Many had an enviable social status.
However, Sharon just wasn't interested. Marriage wasn't in her books yet. And when she decides to get married, she would marry the man of her dreams. So she said.
Eventually, Sharon fell in love. Unfortunately, her lover was a rude shock to everyone including her parents.
Sharon's boyfriend was a heroine smoking cult boy with an attitude. He wasn't exactly crazy about her. But she footed his bill and paid his way to smoking haven. So he put up with her.
Sharon, on the other hand, was madly in love. She saw something in him she hadn't seen anywhere else. Her boyfriend, Larry, was broad shouldered, tall, tough, raw, bold, unrelenting, and daring. He could stare death in the face and not bat an eyelid.
Her boyfriend was a real man!
Sharon was madly in love with Larry and there was no stopping her. Her parents could not understand why their rich and well-breed daughter fell in love with a poor heroine smoking gangster. Her friends couldn't understand either.
Can you feel Sharon's love? Do you understand why her gentle soul fell for a heroine smoking gangster?
Sharon fell in love with a dream - a bold, daring, no nonsense, dare devil guy. He had the looks and the heart of a lion. She admired that bravery, that manly boldness. Soon that admiration turned to love. And there was no stopping her.
However, she's on the wrong road.
True love is not based on physical attraction. Physical attraction eventually fails as people get older and age. What counts most is spiritual virtues - your lover's endearing and up-building lovable personality.
A heroine smoking gangster will eventually get into trouble and land himself in jail. A cultist gangster takes delight in beating people up and fomenting trouble. Sooner or later, if they get married, she may become a battered wife.
Do you get the point?
Infatuation is blind, physical, destructive. True love is clear-sighted, up-building, refreshing.
True love, real love, is based on realistic expectations and facts. It is selfless and works for the good of her partner. Infatuation, on the other hand, doesn't care about reality. It focuses on the physical and immediate gain.
Evaluate your feelings properly before continuing with that love relationship.
Relationships based on true love lasts forever. Relationships based on infatuation are usually temporary and momentary. That is the very reason why some marriages last two weeks, some seven days and still others, a lifetime.
The difference is true love. Real love is true and lasts forever.
Thinking of falling in love?
Make sure it is real love. Evaluate your lover’s potentials in relation to your desires and relevant reality - what is known and proven to make relationships last.
Hey, fall in love the right way. It's your life. It's your future. It's your happiness at stake.So take care...Keep rocking...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
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