Getting over a Bad Dating Experience – What to do Next?

If you’re on the dating scene, you’re going to have to deal with a bad date or a rejection at some point. Of course, we’d all like to think we’ll at least have a good time on a date and make new friends, but what if your date ends up turning you down? How do you deal with this blow to your confidence?

Rejection is hard for anyone to deal with, especially if you have a few dates in a row that end the same way – the other person just doesn’t seem that into you. You might come to the conclusion that all men or women are bad and not worth the effort, or even worse that you’re unattractive and not a good catch. This is the wrong way of thinking, and will only give you a bad attitude going into your next date. If you start to assume your dates will end badly, they probably will!

It’s important to take a realistic view of your dating. Yes, not everyone will be attracted to you, and not everyone will laugh at your jokes, but this goes both ways too. How many men or women have you rejected, through no fault of their own but just because they weren’t right? Think of how many good relationships you have with friends and family, and it’s clear that you can get on with people and have meaningful friendships. A romantic relationship is just an extension of this, so you already have all the skills you need.

If someone rejects you after a date, it’s often nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. They know what they’re looking for and you don’t fit the bill, but that doesn’t mean they’re better than you, or that there’s anything wrong with the way you are. Just as they’re looking for the right person, so are you. They obviously weren’t right for you either.

A great way to get over a bad date isn’t just to change the way you’re thinking, but to give your physical self some attention too. This doesn’t mean you need to take drastic action because you’re unattractive – rather, that a new haircut or a new dress or even just a spa treatment can give you a confidence boost and make you feel better in yourself. Sometimes pampering is the best medicine, and if you’re relaxed, happy and confident this will come across in your next date. A positive attitude really does make a difference when it comes to the dating scene, and helps to maximize your chances of finding the right person for you.

About the Author : Bianca is country manager for PARSHIP UK & Ireland. Find love online with PARSHIP, the serious Online Dating Site.