I Need to get a Girlfriend fast

I am sorry. It is not what you think. It is the typical response of guys who broke up from long term relationships or those who plan to dump their girlfriends wanting to find a replacement fast to fill in the void and loneliness caused by the break up.  There are many instances where women dump men too and even in such cases the affected men lookout for women to fill the void created by the lost relationship and to prove that they are worthy of love and affection from the opposite sex. Many Men get into rebound relationships or dating to prove to their Ex’s that they can get another or probably a better girl than the Ex.

Majority of times when a break up happens people lose their self esteem and confidence and in order to restore that turn to quick fix relationships. They do this in hope that they would be able to forget the hurt and pain caused by the broken relationship and to fill the gap which was resulted from the previous relationship. But what they forget is that such relationships on rebound do not last long as they are not based on love and often result in further heart break and pain. Rebounders often tend to forget that in order to bounce back they are using someone and may hurt that person while doing so. Many times it is noticed that many times Ex’s comes back and the rebounder without any thought dumps the person whom they used to bounce back to get back to Ex.

It is true that Breakups are tough but the reasons for majority of breakups are getting into the relationship for the wrong reasons. All relationships need time to become strong and survive all problems. So efforts and time must be given to understand the Partner and not rush into anything too fast. I am not telling that relationships with the right reasons do not fail. Many times that happens too and it is wise to give time for you so that the pain is healed before moving into a new relationship. If you want to bounce back it is better to look for healthy ways to bounce back after a broken relationship than immediately getting into a relationship on rebound.

Are you in a Rebound Relationship? Signs that you are Dating a Rebounder

A Rebound relationship is one where a person is too quick to get into a new relationship after the breakup of a long term relationship. People get into these sorts of relationships as a distraction to forget the hurt, emotional pain and loneliness after the break up and fill the void left from another. For many people such relationships act as a quick fix or like a band aid and once the purpose is over the rebounder is likely to abandon you and leave you hurt. So, How to know if you are in a relationship with a re bounder? What are some signs to identify if a person is a Rebounder? How can you protect yourself and determine if the new guy you are dating is on the rebound? A rebounder is a person who uses another person to help mend the broken heart.Most rebound relationships are only short term as it is normally not based on love. So How to know if you’re a Rebound? There are some common signs you can observe in order to know if you are Dating a Re bounder or not.

Was your Girl/Guy too fast in getting into a relationship with you after the breakup of the long term relationship? If yes, then probably she/he got into a relationship as a quick fix or out of need to prove to themselves or their ex that they are worthy of love and affection.

Does your Partner mostly talk about his /her Ex… likes, dislikes, the things they did together etc? If the answer is Yes then Beware!

Does your Partner share a mental compatibility with you and share with you his feelings, beliefs and the direction of the relationship? If the answer is No then be careful.

Do you see signs of embitterment, negativity or generalizations with regards to your gender? Then it is a sign that he/she has serious hang ups and not ready to be in a relationship.

Does he/she compare you often with Ex? If yes…There is definitely a problem. She/he may be looking out for Qualities of Ex in you.

Does he still talk to his ex, her family and her friends and try to know what is happening in her life through text, email, phone or Facebook? If that is the case, he still nurtures feelings for her and if she is willing to get back to him, he would dump you.

Does he Keep photos or other reminders of her? This means he has still not moved on from his previous relationship and needs to remove the relationship clutter from his life.

If you find yourself in relationship with a rebounder the wisest course of action would be to let the relationship develop slowly and not allow your new partner to set the pace fast or rush into emotional or physical intimacy with him lest you may end up with a broken heart.

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