How should a Woman deal with a cheating Spouse

Infidelity from a spouse is can be hurting and painful to handle. If reports have to be believed more than half of the marriages in the world have some infidelity going on at some point in the relationship and over 60% of the divorces or breakups are due to cheating. So if you are in a relationship it is difficult to be not affected by the infidelity of a partner. A cheating spouse or partner has always remained a hot topic on magazines, news, TV serials and movies. Remember the popularity it got for tiger woods. Many times the media makes it feel like cheating is a norm and very much in fashion and nothing is wrong with it. But the people who have faced the infidelity of a partner know that it is not that easy to wipe away the hurt and get over it. It is also not easy to forgive the person completely as if nothing happened and re-establish the trust in the relationship.

There are so many marriages affected by marital infidelity. Many times just suspicions can ruin a relationship because many couple does not have an idea how to deal with a cheating spouse and do things wrong making things worse between them. The number one rule if you think that your partner is cheating is to confirm your suspicions and not confront your partner without sufficient proof. There can many signs that your spouse is cheating and look for a combination of several signs and gather as much proof as you can before confronting the partner about it.

For many women, the way to deal with a cheating spouse is by keeping silence and behaving as if nothing happened and everything is right in the relationship. It is okay to be forgiving to your partner but just because you close your eyes it does not become night. Just because you pretend that nothing happened does not change the fact that your spouse cheated on you. You have to face the fact one day or the other. It is observed that many times forgiving spouse adultery only makes him or her to continue doing it because they take it for granted that you would forgive them. Also many times spouse adultery come back to haunting again when you have fights or arguments after all you are human and could not completely forgive the person who cause you hurt and want to cause him hurt too. Some women even go to the extent of cheating back on the spouse too to take out their frustration and anger. But what they forget is that every time they do so they are hurting themselves too.

So what is next? Are you going the end of your marriage by walking away or asking for a divorce because your spouse had an affair? It is a pity that many people who take time to start and build a relationship do not put many efforts in saving a marriage. In my opinion, if a relationship is worth saving then all efforts have to be put to save it and also ensure that the infidelity is not repeated. Whatever the reasons to stay in an unhappy marriage or forgive your partners infidelity maybe if you cannot forgive your partner completely and deal with your anger, hurt and frustration it is difficult to make a success of your marriage. Communicate with your partner and understand the real reasons why he was tempted to cheat on you and if you are in any way responsible for it by behavior make amends and improve yourself. If both of you want to put the cheating behind and save your marriage, work together on building it. In fact, a marriage needs more nourishment and care after cheating to make it work and regain the trust.

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