How to Avoid Being An Obsessive Girlfriend

Ask any Man if he would like to have an obsessive girlfriend and I am sure the answer would not be a very positive one. In fact, one of the sure fire ways to chase a man out of your life is by being obsessive than the other way round. If you are obsessive, probably you are digging the grave of your own relationship. So, how to avoid being an obsessive girlfriend?

Acknowledge him and accept him as he is and not try to transform him to suit your liking. Every individual is different and let him be what he is.

Give him space. Understand that he has a life apart from you too. He has friends, colleagues and familytoo which are part of him life apart from his hobbies and passions.

If you feel that you are becoming too interfering and obsessive it is because you do not have a life yourself and your only interest is him. You should indulge in activities which makes you happy. You should make friends, involve in family activities and hobbies or do anything you find fascinating or would like to be skilled at.

Know to read his body language and recognize when to pull back or leave him alone.

If you have the habit of calling him every half an hour stop it immediately. A man has other things to do other than attending your calls apart from his work. If you are too interfering then the chances are that he would dump you soon because no guy wishes to have an interfering girlfriend.

Try analyzing what makes you feel obsessive. Is it fear of being alone? Fear of rejection? Try working on your confidence so that you overcome your fears, insecurity and negativity.

If you have the habit of stalking him so that you can check up on him then you clearly lack trust in your relationship without which no relationship can survive for long. So work on bringing trust into your relationship.

Consider his opinion or suggestions when making plans together and do not force your opinion or likings on him and make him feel trapped into spending time with you.

While talking do not dominate always. Ask question and listen to him as well.

When spending time with him try spending quality time together. Remember it is not quantity but quality that matters. So try your level best to make the time memorable so that he would want to spend time with you more.

Do not always say ‘yes’ when he wants to meet you say ‘no’ once in a while too. If you jump to meet him every time he wants to see you will seem too desperate.

Remember that a woman's tendency is to be clingier can drive men away. So check out ‘ Are you an obsessive Girlfriend' and if you are work towards not being so. If necessary do not be reluctant to take Expert help because it is something which can ruin your relationship.

Are you an obsessive girlfriend?

Many girls in love chase their boyfriends away from them by being obsessive. What they do not realize is that a Guy needs his space too or also have a life apart from them. Obsessive behavior from a girlfriend can result in the guy abandoning her. Are you an obsessive girlfriend? 

You do not trust him completely.

You call him several times to find where he is.

You insist that he spend all his free time with you.

You keep on asking him if he loves you again and again.

You suspect that he may cheat on you if you leave him on his own.

You keep track of all his female friends.

You get upset or hurt if he is late for a date or cancels a date with you.

You insist on meeting him every day.

You feel insecure even when you see him looking or talking to other girls.

You hate it when you see him adding girls as friends in social networking Sites.

You hurt yourself when he does something you do not like.

You secretly check his mails, messages on social networking sites and even him mobile.

You try spending all your free time with him.

You feel that he is your only world.

You stalk your partner to see what he is up to.

You try changing the habits you do not like in him.

You aim at getting your guy committed to you by hook or crook even if you have just started dating.

You get angry when he makes plan so meet his friends and spend time with them even if they are guys.

You try to stop him from meeting people whom you do not like.

Does this sound like you? If yes, Stop right there. If you continue behaving the way you do he would run away from you. You cannot force someone to love you or be loyal to you. He is not your puppy or slave that you should expect him to follow you around. There is an age old saying ‘if you love someone set him free: If he comes back to you, he is yours. If he doesn't then he is not yours.’

 

Though it is perfectly natural that if you love someone you may think of him or long to be with him but if it is interrupting yours and his life then may be you are having what is called OCD or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. In case of OCD one may move from phases of attraction and anxiousness to obsession and destructing behavior. And many people confuse love with obsession. There is nothing worse than an obsessive partner. So think again, Are you an obsessive girlfriend? If you are, then avoid being so.

 

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