How to Avoid Being An Obsessive Girlfriend

Ask any Man if he would like to have an obsessive girlfriend and I am sure the answer would not be a very positive one. In fact, one of the sure fire ways to chase a man out of your life is by being obsessive than the other way round. If you are obsessive, probably you are digging the grave of your own relationship. So, how to avoid being an obsessive girlfriend?

Acknowledge him and accept him as he is and not try to transform him to suit your liking. Every individual is different and let him be what he is.

Give him space. Understand that he has a life apart from you too. He has friends, colleagues and familytoo which are part of him life apart from his hobbies and passions.

If you feel that you are becoming too interfering and obsessive it is because you do not have a life yourself and your only interest is him. You should indulge in activities which makes you happy. You should make friends, involve in family activities and hobbies or do anything you find fascinating or would like to be skilled at.

Know to read his body language and recognize when to pull back or leave him alone.

If you have the habit of calling him every half an hour stop it immediately. A man has other things to do other than attending your calls apart from his work. If you are too interfering then the chances are that he would dump you soon because no guy wishes to have an interfering girlfriend.

Try analyzing what makes you feel obsessive. Is it fear of being alone? Fear of rejection? Try working on your confidence so that you overcome your fears, insecurity and negativity.

If you have the habit of stalking him so that you can check up on him then you clearly lack trust in your relationship without which no relationship can survive for long. So work on bringing trust into your relationship.

Consider his opinion or suggestions when making plans together and do not force your opinion or likings on him and make him feel trapped into spending time with you.

While talking do not dominate always. Ask question and listen to him as well.

When spending time with him try spending quality time together. Remember it is not quantity but quality that matters. So try your level best to make the time memorable so that he would want to spend time with you more.

Do not always say ‘yes’ when he wants to meet you say ‘no’ once in a while too. If you jump to meet him every time he wants to see you will seem too desperate.

Remember that a woman's tendency is to be clingier can drive men away. So check out ‘ Are you an obsessive Girlfriend' and if you are work towards not being so. If necessary do not be reluctant to take Expert help because it is something which can ruin your relationship.