Infidelity by a spouse is an extremely painful issue. There are so many Marriages affected by a marital infidelity. Many times marriages which can be saved are ruined by dealing with the issue wrongly. So, how to you deal with a cheating spouse? There are several ways women deal with the issue, including some wrong ways. The one rule if you think that your partner is cheating is to confirm that your suspicions are indeed true and not to confront your partner without sufficient proof. If there is no sufficient proof wait till you gather enough proof. If you confront your partner without proper proof and just on the basis of your suspicion, remember that you also stand a chance to lose your partner because of that.
Here are some wrong ways to deal with spouse infidelity.
Some women attack the spouse verbally with screams and accusations and let the neighbors and all the sundry know about it.
Some women turn a blind eye even when they know that the husband is cheating. Just because you ignore the issue and behave as if all is right in your relationship, the fact that your spouse has cheated do not change. You have to face the issue at one point or the other.
Some women feel so hurt and frustrated that they indulge in self damaging by hurting or torturing themselves because they feel worthless or their ego hurt because of their partners cheating. Some even go into conditions like depression. They may feel angry, humiliated, betrayed that they sob their heart out.
Some women just go to extremes by choosing to walk out or go for divorce when they find that their partner has cheated on them. You may have reasons to do so because once trust is broken it is difficult to re-build it again but I also think that the man deserves a second chance to make things right.
Some women forgive their partner but even when there is a minor fight they bring back the issue of marital infidelity because they could not forgive the guy for what he did from heart.
Some women get into a revenge mode where they even go to the extent of sleeping with strangers. That is what a friend of mine did when she discovered that her husband was cheating on her with his secretary. My friend is what anyone would call a perfect wife and I was shocked to know that her husband would cause her hurt by sleeping with his secretary. On her anger and frustration she went and slept with a complete stranger before confronting the husband with proof that she knows that he cheated on her… The couple is still together and the marital infidelity is behind them and my friend still keeps her ‘dirty little secret’. I am in no way justifying what she did is right because just because your partner cheated on you , it is not necessary for you to stoop to that level too. If my friend was lucky another acquaintance of mine was not as lucky. When she confessed to her husband that she cheated on him too because she felt guilty later, her husband left her. No matter how a man behaves, it is noticed that when it comes to spouse infidelity a man may not be as forgiving as a women. So, how do you deal with infidelity? Pick the right moment to tell your spouse that you know about his cheating and ask for an explanation. If he is willing to change and promises never to do it again there is nothing wrong in giving him a second chance to prove his love and loyalty to you. If there is a chance to stop the divorce and save your marriage then you should try your level best to do so.
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