Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Saving a Marriage or Letting it Go


Many times after a break up, women get back to their men. There can be many reasons which may prompt a woman to get back to her spouse like an apology from the spouse and promise that the mistake would not be repeated, family pressures, low self esteem, financial security, society, children etc to name a few. Majority of times the women who got back to their husbands end up with an even bigger hurt or breakup. Some of the reasons for this can be

Many times women are not able to forgive and forget the infidelity of their spouses completely that many women mention about what happened in the past during even minor disagreements thereby opening the old wounds.

Once the trust is broken it is very difficult to have trust in the partner again. After having caught a man cheating, women tend to be more cautious and suspicious about the man causing more fights and disagreements.

Many men take women for granted and tend to think that their women would not leave them no matter what. They think that since she has forgiven the mistakes even if it is repeated she would forgive again. Also the normal tendency is ‘once a cheat, always a cheat’. Men who have got into the habit of cheating find it very difficult to be loyal to their spouses.

So before you get back to your spouse again think ‘Do I truly want to save my marriage?’ ‘Is going back to my husband the best thing for me to do?’ If you are getting back for the sake of your kids ask yourself ‘Am I willing to sacrifice my happiness for the sake of my kids for life long? Is my decision the best for my kids? These questions are vital to consider. Life is too short to spend in a miserable and unhappy marriage. Only after carefully considering the pros and cons of getting back into the relationship, make a decision on if you should go back to your husband or not.

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