Should you go back to a Man who did not trust you?

Recently when I went for a Kitty Party, the topic of conversation of some of my friends revolved around the NDTV Imagine Show Jyoti. I do not blame housewives getting addicted to these numerous soaps on TV. With the numerous advertisements of serials and repeated telecasts these soaps are hard to miss. My friends were having a heated discussion on the center character Jyoti who preferred to choose her friend over her ex husband and father of the child as life partner. By the way, Have we not seen such a situation in the Priety Zinta starer Kya Kehna? Coming to the topic of discussion, while one argued that Jyoti did it wrong by not opting for her husband Pankaj as he is the father of her unborn child and he deserves to be forgiven for his mistake at least once. My other friend argued that a man who suspected her character on the basis of what others say does not deserve a second chance and she made a right decision choosing her friend Kabir as life partner as he trusts her and accepts her as she is. Well, I agree with my friend on that point too.

A few months back another friend of mine was in a similar situation. The difference was that she was not pregnant. Her husband believed the stories cooked by his mother and sister in law and threw her out of the house, the same women he married after courting for 2 years. When he realized his mistake later after over hearing the talks between her mother and sister in law he went to her and begged for forgiveness. And my friend, like majority of Indian women would do, got back with her husband. In my opinion if a marriage has to work, trust is an important factor. If you do not have trust in your partner and not willing to hear the explanation she has, then the relationship is not worth pursuing. I can to some extent understand and justify my friends husband for believing in his mother and sister in law more than his own wife as they have been part of his life for a longer period than her. But what about a man who believes in others more than his wife and suspects her? Does he deserve a second chance? I guess not.

In Jyoti’s Case, I do not think Pankaj deserved a second chance because being suspicious about the paternity of his own child is a serious mistake and no self respectful women would forgive such a thing. Suspicion is something which can be got rid of fast, so he may do it again. Moreover, he believed in someone who was his friend for a few weeks more than his wife whom he loved and married. Now that he knows the truth of his ex wife, Pankaj wants to divorce his second wife and get back to Jyoti for the sake of his child. I also do not think that any woman in her rightful mind would want to be a home breaker even if the guy is her Child's father. Kabir, her friend, on the other hand is always supportive of her and accepts her even when he knows that she is carrying her ex husbands child.

Unfortunately many women, in such situations like that of Jyoti, choose to go back to their ex partner or ex husband because they do not want the child to suffer. And many husbands want their wives back because they want their child and not because they genuinely love their wives. My Question is “Is it worth going back to a man who did not trust you at the first place?” What do you think?