Thursday, January 27, 2011

Three Epic Fail Romances from the Movies

Guest Post from David
Are you clueless about love and dating but know your movies like no one else’s business?  Do you have stacks of DVDs and Blu-Rays and spend just as much time on Netflix as you do on E-Harmony?  Maybe it’s time you learned a few things from the movies, like these epic fail romances.  Hey, there’s a reason we enjoy watching other people make fools of themselves in the name of love.  So we don’t have to make the same mistakes.

500 Days of Summer : There’s nothing quite like romance in retrospect.  Who can watch Joseph Gordon-Levitt fall madly in love with a girl who obviously doesn’t respect him or like him that much? This is a great film and an epic fail of a romance that reminds guys never to invest more in a relationship than you’re getting back. Sometimes the happy ending (even in the story of your own life) is internal. Your happy ending is to get over someone who is bad news for you, and then use your passion and energy to find someone who really deserves you.

Manhattan : Woody Allen’s fawning over Mariel Hemingway (a barely legal woman at the time) was creepy on so many levels. However, it was also the embodiment of an unstable May-December relationship. He was unable to commit himself to a young woman he couldn’t fully trust, because of all sorts of social issues, body image issues and paranoia.  He chased his replacement daughter away and broke her heart, only to go crawling back to her after he was dumped by a woman his own age.  This is not so much a movie against older-younger relationships as it is a movie that warns you against pursuing doomed romances that you know will fail—and yet try anyway. If you see warning signs all over the place then what makes you think you can defy the odds?  The thirst for love can move people to do stupid things.  Have the strength to evaluate your prospects and say no to a relationship if you can tell it’s going to cause heartache in the end.

Knocked Up : Knocked Up may be a funny movie, but it’s hardly a romantic date movie. This is a two-hour horror film on what could happen if you score on the first date and a terrible accident occurs. If you’re lucky, you end up really liking the guy or girl you’re forced to marry and really enjoy raising an instant family. Of course, there’s also the chance that you’ll hate each other but still have to pay mom child support. This is not quite a tragic love story, but I think having a child conceived after the first date and then being chained to a person you may or may not like for the rest of your life is an epic fail of a situation. Apparently though, Seth Rogan’s character had such low-self esteem he was grateful to have any woman interested in him.  That’s what you call an “epic save.” Guys and girls: it usually doesn’t work this way in real life.  Always use protection and think things through before you make that extra-suave move.

Up in the Air : Forget about the spiritual journey George Clooney’s character “Ryan” went through—what about the epic fail he had in romancing Natalie?  Though not truly about online dating, this movie does manage to show the inherent risks you take when you date someone “out of town.” When you chat online, you are meeting people in a worldwide “virtual bar” where many can come together, but few people can actually leave together.  When you both happen to be in one place at the same time, fireworks can start.  However, settling back down to reality and finding out that your partner is not ready to make a leap of faith can be disheartening. This is why many online singles limit themselves to local partners (not to mention unattached partners!).Because they want love to happen in the real world and not in fantasy land.

Learn from these epic romance failures and avoid situations that will only bring trouble. Stick to the fairy tale princes and princesses and find your happy ending!

About the Author : This post was written by David who consults to a dating company that reviews the Top 10 Dating Websites and provides comparison features.

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