What Parents should not do

It is a known fact that Parents are the first teachers of a child and the first influence in the life of the child who moulds a child’s character. The outlook that the child will form towards life depends a lot on the parents. His attitude, views, goals, perspective on life etc depend to a larger extent on what he learned from parents. The influence the Parent exerts on the life can be good or bad and can have a lasting impression on his mind even after becoming an adult. Since Parents can make or break (ruin) a child parents should ensure that they set a good example for the child to follow. If you want your child to grow up as a good citizen you should be a good one too!

The children of parents who quarrel often are prone to conditions like Teen Depression. Moreover, it is also observed that children copy their parents in terms of habits. If the child of a chain smoker starts smoking at an early age or if the son of an alcoholic becomes an alcoholic it is no wonder because children see nothing wrong in following their parents. It is also noticed that the children who have seen parents divorce afraid to commit marriage because of fear of failure like their parents. Similarly a child may inherit the good qualities from his spiritual minded, patriotic and disciplined parents.

How can parents ruin their children? What not to do in front of children? What Parents should not do? How to be a good Parent? These are questions many Parents ask. Many have no or less idea on how Parental behavior can influence their kids. Given are some things parents do which can have a negative impact on their children.

Children are forced to opt for studies or Career by parents without taking into consideration their interest or abilities. Many Parents try to fulfill their own dreams which they could not achieve through their kids.

Overambitious Parents give a child more responsibilities than he or she can handle leading to failure and disappointment.

Parents are even known to make major decisions like marriage on behalf of their older children without considering what the guy or girl wants.

By being overprotective and fussing over children many parents make their kids cowards and dependent on them.

Partiality by parents between children can result in the ignored kid to grow up as a brat or rebel.

Parents who are not appreciative when their kids do something good can de-motivate a child. Similarly if kids are not rebuked on wrong doings they may continue doing it.

Many Parents who have treated their own parents badly find themselves mistreated by their children later in life. What you sow is what you reap!

Children who are ignored or neglected  by their Parents due to Career or any other factors may feel unloved or unwanted and may drift away from parents and may seek their comforts in drugs, drinking or elsewhere.

Parents who interfere too much with the lives of their kids be aware that such habits can chase away your kids from you. Do we not see Parents reading the diary of kids, interfere with everything they do, force their opinion on kids or even go to the extent of stalking them?

Children may copy parents vices like gambling, alcohol, smoking, drugs etc.

Parents who compare their children with siblings or other children negatively or humiliate the children in public may create an inferiority complex in the mind of the child or may make them rebels

Parents who fight, argue or curse in front of their children do not set good values for them to follow. Parents who indulge in violent behavior do not set a good example either.

While Parents should project themselves as loving and affectionate to each other they should keep the intimacy restricted to the four walls of their own bedroom.

See how parents can ruin their children? The above given were only a few points on what not to do as a Parent. Being a parent can one of the most fulfilling experiences a person can have but the most responsible too. Good Parenting is the best gift you can give to your child. As Parent one may make mistakes but correcting them and improving your behavior can help to make us better parents.