Many Single Women are now turning to Online Dating to find their Mr. Right because of the immense popularity of internet dating sites and their ability to get access to a wide network of people. Most of these sites are totally free of charge for members to use. However, single women should exercise great caution while Dating Online. It is said that more than 70% of men in such sites are married or already in a relationship but on the lookout for easy sex and those involved in scams online. Be on the watch out for warning signs or signals while using such websites. It is there by best for women not to give too many personal details while chatting online or take the relationship forward before making double sure that the guy is indeed a genuine one. It is advisable that you get all of the details of the Guy first and then decide if they fit the bill or not.
I personally happen to know many men who are married, involved in a relationship or dating who are members of such sites. These types of Guys are in such sites looking for sex or extramarital affairs. Many such Guys may claim to be unmarried or divorced. Some warning signals would be unavailability of a photo on profile or much detail. They may tell you excuses like insecurity of online data and pictures and may promise to send you photo once you send your details. The actual fact is that these people are scared of been noticed by someone who already know them. Also such Guys may not give you their home number and may only give you a mobile number and say that you can only call them at work during normal working hours. They also may suggest that you meet them during lunch hours or office timings instead of weekends or evenings as they would not want to create suspicion in the mind of their actual partners. One of my friends who was dating a ‘sweet guy online’ and was very serious about him noticed when she met him for the first time in a mall for a coffee that he had the mark which comes from continuously wearing a ring on the wedding ring finger and confronted him about it. First he refused saying that it was some ring he wore astrologically. But after meeting a few more times he gave out more signals that he is not single and when she confronted him again he admitted that he is married but his spouse has made his life miserable and that she is still continuing the affair she had prior to marriage. He even went ahead and told her that he fell in love with her on first sight and then promised that he would get a divorce soon so that the two of them can get married and live happily ever after. My friend believed him again and by the time she realized that she was the home breaker and the wife of the guy was nothing like what the guy had described it was already late and she had broken her heart.
There is no foolproof method to know if a guy is genuine or not but many times what a Guy says or what he does not say may tell a lot more about him. Some things you can try is chat him on his messenger id and try to dig as much details from him before deciding to meet in person. Save chat summaries for reference later. After some time send him an invite to chat as another female with entirely different details and watch out his response. You may also take your friend’s assistance on this. Also try to get hold of his Social Networking or Micro blogging sites details and make friends with his female friends, check out his wall etc for suspicious signs. If he is not giving his other site id try googling his details. Many times, when you ask him a question which you have asked earlier you may get a different answer from him. Sometimes you would find contradictory details in his profile pages too which may be an indication that he is lying. In fact, you can find all sorts of people in Dating Sites. While some are after free sex (including phone or cyber sex addicts), some are after your money or for a job with your help or citizenship. Many times such men fall prey to another man pretending to be a woman which serves them right. Anyways, as a woman it is better to be cautious of the risks than regret later.
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