Wanted a Fair Skinned Bride

We often see matrimonial ads looking for fair skinned bride. In the marriage market fair skinned brides are of great demand and if the girl is a little dark then it is difficult for getting a groom. Recently there was a report of a dark skinned girl been tortured and thrown out by the in-laws barely days after her marriage with their son because of her dark skin. If the girl is dark then she is a constant worry to her parents especially in India. The grooms parents also seem to keep more demands in terms of dowry if the girl is dark skinned and the parents of the bride also meet these demands because of fear of society and making the girl sit at home even after marriageable age. Even dark skinned guys only seem to want to get married to fair skinned girls. What is more, dark-skinned girls are often discriminated not only by society but also at their own homes. It is a pity that we Indians call ourselves a united country but openly discriminate based on caste, language, sex, colour, creed, place of origin and anything else we can think of. While I do not support evils of the society like domestic violence and dowry I also think one should stop discriminating based on skin colour. 

When will our notion that Fair is beautiful-dark is ugly end? When will the obsession for fair skin end? Does light skin always mean beautiful skin?  Will their ever be any value to the beauty of the mind or character? Unfortunately the marriage market is not the only place where a dark skinned faces a problem. Dark skinned girls also seem to face problems in getting jobs. Fortunately, some how some dusky complexion girls have made a mark in the film, television and fashion industry giving a ray of hope for other girls who are not fair skinned. The television advertisements also promote the concept that ‘fair is beautiful’. That’s why you see advertisements daily on television or other Medias about various skin beauty products like face creams, lotions or soaps claiming to make one fair in 14 days or even 7 days by exploiting the mentality of society that one has to be fair skinned to be beautiful. Many spend a substantial part of their earnings on fairness products and treatments. However, not everyone can be Michael Jackson to do high cost treatments. Dark skinned girls are under tremendous pressure to succumb to the fair and beautiful complex which may often lead to depression, inferiority complex, low esteem and mental disorders. We also recently had Television Shows like ‘Bidaai’ which is the story of two sisters (one fair skinned and the other dark skinned) on Star Plus which showed the discrimination based on skin.

While the external beauty also matters to some extent, I think, the real beauty is what is within and how you feel about yourself. There is a saying ‘If you feel that you are beautiful, you are’. There is nothing to be ashamed because you are dark but be proud of what you are and your inner qualities.

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