Bringing Up The Topic Of Marriage Counseling to Spouse

Speaking in all honesty, nobody can really say that the idea of receiving marriage counseling is something to rave and brag about. Unfortunately, we sometimes get twisted up in our ideas of what right and wrong are. Take just a few seconds to think about why marriage counseling seems like something that you would not want to do. The chances are very high that your reasoning is that you do not want others to form a certain impression of you. Take another moment and ask if living up to the demands of others is really worth risking your relationship?

So what it your answer? We both know that you want your marriage to work, and if counseling is an option that appears to be appealing to you, why not give it a shot? It is not worth ignoring and avoiding simply because you feel that it might look weird to other people. Who cares? You did not care what people thought about you and your spouse when you first fell in love, why care when you are doing something that will improve that relationship?

Now how exactly do you go about actually bringing up marriage counseling with your loved one? Truth be told, there is always going to be that awkward feeling regardless of how much you "prepare" for it. On the positive side however, things are much smoother and easier once you actually go through it. Use your better judgement when deciding on when and where to bring up the discussion, and handle it as professionally as possible.

Explain to your partner that you have given some serious thought and consideration to your current situation, and you have decided that marriage counseling may be an ideal way to improve your relationship and iron out some of the rougher spots in both of your lives. Remember that you both love each other and want to make your relationship work, it is just that you are facing obstacles that are not common enough to know how to fix. A marriage counselor has training and experience in identifying and explaining how to solve these problems.

Allow your partner the time and space needed to think over the possibility of seeking out professional help for the relationship issues you are experiencing. If your partner has also been thinking about the same thing even before you brought it up, then they will most likely be willing. If not, reiterate the fact that you are both experiencing a new problem and should seek out third party help to fix it for the sake of your relationship.
In either case, things will proceed smoothly 99.9 % of the time. If you should be in the remaining 0.1%, then it may be time to evaluate your relationship with a different perspective. I wish you the best and hope that things work out for the better of your relationship.

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This is a Guest Post from Sabas Chapa. He is a freelance writer and an internet marketing coach. His is currently building a website that explains how to use an electric knife sharpener to make cooking easier.