The Need to Fulfil Yourself by Travelling Alone!

Something that has plagued many relationships is the need to do something that you have always wanted to. Now things like this are your dreams, something that as individuals we want to undertake alone. There in lies a problem, I have seen many people break up in pursuit of their own dreams, where one person wanted to go traveling around the world. The main problem is that people fall in love, before they have managed to live out their dreams.

So you fall in love with the woman or man of your dreams, then around four or six years down the line you decide that you need to explore yourself and travel around India and China. You are expecting to be out of the country for about four to five months and you explain to your partner that this is something you “need to do”. What sort of response do you expect from this, well its probably not going to be the top result, and you may find yourself at the end of a very sharp point.

Love, or at least falling in love isn’t really something that you can just put on hold, so when it happens you jump at the situation (some of us may wait a while, but inevitably you try your luck). Now because we have embarked on this mission of love we neglect to think about ourselves and what are ambitions are for a while, until a certain amount of time down the line.

So after you have explained this and you are faced with the somewhat scary looking face of your partner where do you take the conversation now? Waiting for all the possible screaming and shouting to stop may be a good place to start, do not interrupt allow all of that anger to vent. Then after the volcano has finished erupting and has mellowed to a constant but less aggressive lava flow, begin to talk. Explain that this is what you have wanted, and that however much you wanted to mention it when you got together you were afraid of it pushing them away. The seeking pity part over then come up with a compromise. Someone once said to me that “relationships are built on compromise”, not always true in my opinion but it does have some leverage.

Instead of making this seem all about you, invite your partner to join you, this will probably not go down very well, but it will lead nicely onto the next part. Explain that if they cannot join you immediately ask them to come out and meet you half way. Tell them that your feelings for them are ever growing but so are you, this is the time for you both to do something outrageous and exciting, a little adventure before settling down to the perfect life (this should win some brownie points). Next make a nice cuppa, offer to take out to dinner to discuss further, what ever you do, don’t walk away from the situation if it gets too heated, you will never be forgiven.

This isn’t a guide on how to worm your way out of this sort of situation, just a helpful reminder that you don’t have to break up to go along with your dreams. It worked for me, why not you!

This is a guest post by Mark. He travels around the world, working for a Maldives holidays tour operator, sharing his own experiences is a great passion of his!