Loving someone who doesn't want you

When someone doesn’t want you – Art Garfunkel

She doesn't want me, she doesn't care,

I've tried so hard to let her know, but she doesn't see me there.

What else can I do When Someone Doesn't Want You?

The picture's painted, I've been denied,

The artist couldn't fit me in, there wasn't room for me inside.

What else can I do When Someone Doesn't Want You?

All of us want to be loved, appreciated and respected. One of the hardest things in life, is to be caught up in a one-sided relationship. You feel that you do all the giving, and you get nothing back in return. You feel the passion, your heart skips a beat every time you look at your loved one, but they feel nothing. A one-sided love affair is soul destroying, it consumes you like a cancer, making you depressed, lowering your self-esteem. You feel worthless. So then, why do we do it? Why do we stay in a relationship where our love isn’t reciprocated? Why do we stay with a serial cheater?

The simple answer is that many of us believe that if we love someone enough, then we’ll win them over. Convert them to our side of the fence. We might buy them gifts, agree with everything they say even when we know they are wrong; or start to like the things they like in an attempt to be their soul mate. Sorry guys, it ain’t ever going to happen. There’s a reason why you guys are only friends and nothing more. Sometimes, they might just view you as an acquaintance, rather than a best friend. Or even worse, they think of you as a bad habit that they can’t shake. But one thing’s for sure, if you keep trying to demonstrate your love for them in a valiant attempt to win them over; you’ll come across as needy and not emotionally independent.

Most of us get irritated and annoyed by needy people. Life is too busy and we just can’t be bothered. So, what do we do? We treat them badly to try and make them ‘un-love’ us. If you set yourself up as a doormat, then people will wipe their dirty shoes on you. Is that what you want for yourself?

If you are stuck in a one-sided relationship, my advice is this. Stop trying so hard to win them over. Don’t act desperate and needy. Distance yourself a little, become emotionally independent, act like you don’t need their love. Respect yourself, love yourself, and if necessary, move on. There is someone out there, besides your mother, who’ll love you for who you are. If you stay stuck in a one-sided relationship, you’ll create unnecessary stress upon yourself, as you try whatever you can to impress the other person. Forget about impressing them, impress yourself. Be emotionally strong and self-sufficient, and who knows, the person you love might be so blown away with the new you, that they might start pursuing you. If that happens, play it cool and reel them in slowly like a fisherman who’s hooked himself a big fish. I wish you all the best in life and love!

Cindy

This is a Guest Post from Cindy Vine. She is a teacher and writer currently living in Tanzania at the foot of Kilimanjaro. She has written a self-help book on relationships called Fear, Phobias and Frozen Feet which is available on Amazon.com. Cindy’s fiction books deal with both family dramas and abusive relationships. Stop the world, I need to pee! The Case of Billy B and her latest book, Not Telling. All are available on Amazon.com. You can follow Cindy’s blogs on http://cindy-vine.blogspot.com; http://cindyvinesrelationshipadvice.blogspot.com or find out more about Cindy Vine and her books on http://cindyvine.com.

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Keep Loving...Dont give up your goodness

A small story...An important message for everyone,for those who hate LOVE too...Click read more...!

There was this Hindu who saw a scorpion floundering around in the water. He decided to save it by stretching out his finger, but the scorpion stung him. The man still tried to get the scorpion out of the water, but the scorpion stung him again.

A man nearby told him to stop saving the scorpion that kept stinging him.

But the Hindu said: “It is the nature of the scorpion to sting. It is my nature to love. Why should I give up my nature to love just because it is the nature of the scorpion to sting?”

Don’t give up loving.
Don’t give up your goodness.
Even if people around you sting....Keep loving,keep rocking..!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Does LOVE really need a reason...?

Does love need a reason...??Its a wonderful doubt that everyone might get at any time of life...Click read more...!

Some people never understand. One a lady when having a conversation with her lover.

Lady: Why do you like me? Why do you love me?
Man: I can’t tell the reason but I really like you.
Lady: You can’t even tell me the reason. How can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?
Man: I really don’t know the reason but I can prove that I love you.
Lady: Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend’s boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!
Man: Okay, Okay! Hmmm, because you are beautiful, because your voice is sweet, because you are caring, because you are loving, because you are thoughtful, because of your smile, because of your every movement.

The lady felt very satisfied with the man’s answer. Unfortunately, A few days later the lady met with an accident and went in coma. The guy then placed a letter by her side. Here is the content of the letter:

Darling, because of your sweet voice I loved you..
Now can you talk?No!
Therefore I cannot love you….

Because of your care and concern I liked you…
Now that you cannot show them,
therefore I cannot love you..

Because of your smile because of your every movement I loved you..
Now can you smile?Now can you move?.. no!
therefore I cannot love you..

If love needs a reason, like now,
there is no reason for me to love you anymore.

Does LOVE need a reason?

NO, Therefore,
I still love you…

True love never dies for it is lust that fades away. Love bonds for a lifetime lust just pushes away.

Immature love says: “I love you because I need You.”
Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.”

Thats the difference friends...Hope you agree with this...Keep rocking,
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

God's opinion regarding manufacturing a woman's life

The flaw in a woman....Its about God's thoughts regarding a woman...Click read more..!

By the time the Lord made woman. He was into his sixth day of working overtime. An angel appeared and said, ‘Why are you spending so much time on this one?
And the Lord answered, ‘Have you seen my spec sheet on her? She has to be completely washable, but not plastic, have over 200 movable parts, all replaceable and able to run on diet coke and leftovers, have a lap that can hold four children at one time, have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart-and she will do everything with only two hands.’

The angel was astounded at the requirements. ‘Only two hands!? No way! And that’s just on the standard model? That’s too much work for one day. Wait until tomorrow to finish.’

‘But I won’t, ‘ the Lord protested. ‘I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my own heart. She already heals herself when she is sick AND can work 18 hour days.’

The angel moved closer and touched the woman. ‘But you have made her so soft, Lord.’

‘She is soft,’ the Lord agreed, ‘but I have also made her tough. You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish.’

‘Will she be able to think? ‘, asked the angel.

The Lord replied, ‘Not only will she be able to think, she will be able to reason and negotiate.’

The angel then noticed something, and reaching out, touched the woman’s cheek. ‘Oops, it looks like you have a leak in this model. I told you that you were trying to put too much into this one.’

‘That’s not a leak,’ the Lord corrected, ‘that’s a tear!’

‘What’s the tear for?’ the angel asked.

The Lord said, ‘The tear is her way of expressing her joy, her sorrow, her pain, her disappointment, her love, her loneliness, her grief and her pride.’

The angel was impressed. ‘You are a genius, Lord. You thought of everything! Woman is truly amazing.’

And she is!

Women have strengths that amaze men.
They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don’t take ‘no’ for an answer when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideals.
They give moral support to their family and friends.
Women have vital things to say and everything to give
HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE TINY FLAW IN WOMEN,

IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.

Ask your friends and relatives to remind them just how amazing they are.


Keep rocking,Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Hilarious story regarding what happens if a woman gets angry?

Hilarious story regarding a woman's intelligence...Click read more..!

A woman arrived at the Gates of Heaven.. While she was waiting for Saint Peter to greet her, she peeked through the gates. She saw a beautiful banquet table. Sitting all around were her parents and all the other people she had loved and who had died before her. They saw her and began calling greetings to her, "Hello - How are you! We've been waiting for you! Good to see you."

When Saint Peter came by, the woman said to him, "This is such a wonderful place! How do I get in?"


"You have to spell a word," Saint Peter told her.


"Which word?" the woman asked.


"Love."


The woman correctly spelled "Love" and Saint Peter welcomed her into Heaven.


About a year later, Saint Peter came to the woman and asked her to watch the Gates of Heaven for him that day. While the woman was guarding the Gates of Heaven, her husband arrived.


"I'm surprised to see you," the woman said. "How have you been?"


"Oh, I've been doing pretty well since you died," her husband told her. "I married the beautiful young nurse who took care of you while you were ill. And then I won the multi-state lottery. I sold the little house you and I lived in and bought a huge mansion. And my wife and I traveled all around the world. We were on vacation in Cancun and I went water skiing today. I fell and hit my head, and here I am. What a bummer! How do I get in?"


"You have to spell a word," the woman told him.


"Which word?" her husband asked.


"Pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis" , she replied.


Moral of the story: Never make a woman angry . . . there will be Hell to pay!


NB: The longest word currently listed in the Oxford dictionary is the supposed lung-disease pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis (45 letters).

Keep rocking...Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

You are special,dnt forget it

A small article that speaks about the value of a person...Click read more..!


A well known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?"

Hands started going up.

He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this." He proceeded to crumple the dollar bill up.

He then asked, "Who still wants it?"

Still the hands were up in the air.

"Well," he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe.

He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. "Now who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.

"My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way.

We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

You are special - Don't ever forget it!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Every person having parents must read this

A very beautiful story with an advice...Every person who has his parents must read this article..Special thanks to Anjali garu....Click read more...!




A simple man tells how his booking an air ticket for his father, his first flight, brought emotions and made him realize that how much we all take for granted when it comes to our parents.

My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father had never traveled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make him experience the same. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Lufthansa.

The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen.

He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things.

As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me.

He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great deal to him.

When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me.

But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life.

As a child how many dreams our parents have made come true. Without understanding the financial situation, we ask for football, dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they have satisfied to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes?

Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us?

Same way, today when it comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good school. Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have to give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young, it is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.

Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they would have felt at those moments.

Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children , the same attention and same care need to be given to our parents and elders.

Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream.

I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes. Just because they are old does not mean that they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. They have wishes, too.

Let's Take care of our parents.

Keep rocking friends....Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

My Ex Boyfriend wants me back

‘My Ex Boyfriend wants me back. What should I do?’ These are words from a mail one of my readers send me two days back.I personally feel that the ‘what should I do’ is a question she should ask herself and not anyone else as she knows her ex boyfriend better and the reasons for the break up.

I am sure many people have been in the same position like her. The decision regarding if to go back or not depends on the circumstances the break up happened and what the guy is doing to get back to the girlfriend. Many times couples split because of misunderstandings but when it gets cleared they get back to each other. Some times after the breakup the couple comes to realize how much they mean for each other and want to get back together. But many times the break up happens because of serious reasons like abuse, disrespect and cheating. In such a case ask yourself

Do you really think that your ex will change?

Are you willing to take the risk of getting hurt again in case he does not change?

Why does your ex boyfriend want you back?

Has he genuinely realized his mistakes and would not repeat it again?

Do you genuinely think that you would be happy with this guy?

Consider the consequences of your action, weigh the pros and cons and then decide if you should go back to your ex boyfriend or not.

WHEN A LIZARD CAN, WHY CAN”T WE?

A spectacular meaning holding story adopted from Anjali's blog.....Click read more...!



This is a true story that happened in Japan .


In order to renovate the house, someone in Japan breaks open the wall.


Japanese houses normally have a hollow space between the wooden walls.


When tearing down the walls, he found that there was a livelizard stuck there because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet.

He sees this, feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail, it was nailed 10 years ago when the house was! first built.


What happened?


The lizard has survived in such position for 10 years!!!!!!!!!!

In a dark wall partition for 10 years with out moving, it is impossible and mind-boggling.

Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 10 years! without moving a single step–since its foot was nailed!

So he stopped his work and observed the lizard, what it has been doing, and what and how it has been eating.

Later, not knowing from where it came, appears another lizard, with food in its mouth.


Ah! He was stunned and touched deeply.

For the lizard that was stuck by nail, another lizard has been feeding it for the past 10 years…


Imagine? it has been doing that untiringly for 10 long years, without giving up hope on its partner.

Think, will u do that to your partner?

Think that will you do it to your Mom, Who brought you after a big struggle of Nine long months ?


Or at least to your Dad, Friends, Co-workers, brothers and Sisters?

Imagine what a small creature can do that a creature blessed with a brilliant mind can”t.

As information and communication technology advances, our access to information becomes faster and faster.


But the distance between human beings . . . is it getting closer as well?


Please never abandon your loved ones


Never Say U R Busy When They Really Need You …

You May Have The Entire World At Your Feet…..

But You Might Be The Only World To Them….

A Moment of negligence might break the very heart which loves you thru all odds..


Before you say something just remember It takes a moment to Break but an entire life to make….

To Live Use Heart And to Survive use Brains.

Then Life would be a paradise Unfurling only Love Joy andHappiness…..


Spread this message to everyone you Love and Help them Live life and not merely Survive…..


The happiest of people don”t necessarily have the best of everything;

They just make the most of everything that comes along their way !!


Keep rocking...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Unconditional love-An essence of LOVE

A meaningful story adopted from Anjali garu's blog.....Loved it so much..
Special thanks to Anjali garu for this article...!Click read more...!

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco.
"Mom and Dad, I'm coming home," the Son said, "but I've a favor to ask. I have a friend I'd like to bring home with me."

"Sure," they replied, "we'd love to meet him."

"There's something you should know" the son continued, "he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mind and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us."

"I'm sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live."

"No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us."

"Son," said the father, "you don't know what you're asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can't let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He'll find a way to live on his own."

At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide. The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn't know, their son had only one arm and one leg.

The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don't like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren't as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are. Thankfully, there's someone who won't treat us that way. Someone who loves us with an unconditional love that welcomes us into the forever family, regardless of how messed up we are.

Keep rocking...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

An interesting story-Must read it once

Another nice story thats adopted from Anjali garu's blog....Thankz Anjali garu for the wonderful article....Click read more...!


Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, If after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death. The question was: What do women really want?

Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, And to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, He accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end.

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: The princess, the priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer. Many people advised him to consult the old witch, For only she would have the answer. But the price would be high as the witch was famous through out the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first.

The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, The most noble of the Knights of the Round Table, And Arthur's closest friend! Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunch-backed and hideous, had only one tooth, Smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc.
He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden, But Lancelot, having learnt of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life. And the reservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur's question thus:"What a woman really wants?" She said, "Is to be in charge of her own life."
Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth.
And that Arthur's life would be spared. And so it was.

The neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom.
And Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.
The honeymoon hour approached and, Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom.
But, what a sight awaited him.
The most beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed.
The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened.
The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, She would henceforth be her horrible and deformed self only half the time. And the beautiful maiden the other half.
"Which would you prefer? She asked him.
"Beautiful during the day ... or at night?"
Lancelot pondered the predicament.
During the day he could have a beautiful woman to show off to his friends,
But at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch!
Or,
Would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day?
But by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous, intimate moments with?


(If you are a man reading this...) What would YOUR choice be?
(If you are a woman reading this) What would YOUR MAN'S choice be?
What Lancelot chose, is given below:
BUT... make YOUR choice before you scroll down below... OKAY?


____________________________________________
Noble Lancelot, knowing the answer the witch gave Arthur to his question,
He said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.
Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time.
Because, he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

Now... what is the moral to this story?

The moral is...
1) There is witch in every woman no matter how beautiful she is!
2) If you don't let a woman have her own way, things are going to get ugly.

So, always remember:
IT'S EITHER "HER WAY" OR IT'S "NO WAY" !!!

Keep rocking..!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Nice love story

A wonderful story adopted from one of the blogs that i have seen yesterday...Felt like sharing it with you....Click read more...!
P.S: Story adapted from anjalinityanjali.blogspot.com

A Beautiful Love story which will touch your Heart……. ……



There was once this guy who is very much in love with his girl. This romantic guy folded 1,000 pieces of paper cranes as a gift to his girl.

Although, at that time he was just a small fry in his company, his future didn’t seem too bright, they were very happy together. Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she cannot visualize any future for the both of them, so they went their own ways there and then…


Heartbroken, the guy agreed. But when he regained his confidence, he worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of himself.

Finally with all the hard work and the help of friends, this guy had set up his own company .

You never fail until you stop trying. One rainy day, while this guy was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain walking to some destination. Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn’t take him long to realize they were his girl’s parents.

With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan. He wanted them to know that he wasn’t the same any more; he had his own company, car, condo, etc. He made it! What he saw next confused him, the couple was walking towards a cemetery, and so he got out of his car and followed…and he saw his girl, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as ever at him from her tombstone and he saw his paper cranes right beside her…

Her parents saw him. He asked them why this had happened. They explained, she did not leave for France at all. She was ill with cancer. She had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want to be his obstacle… therefore she had chosen to leave him.


Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have. She had wanted her parents to put his paper cranes beside her, because, if the day comes when fate brings him to her again…he can take some of those back with him…


Once you have loved, you will always love. For what’s in your mind may escape but what’s in your heart will remain forever.


The guy just wept…The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside her knowing you can’t have her, see her or be with her ever again……. ..hope you understand.


Find time to realize that there is one person who means so much to you, for you might wake up one morning losing that person who you thought meant nothing to you



Hope you have liked that,keep rocking...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Dont look for happiness....Look out for JOY

An inspirational message to everyone....A must and should article to be read by everyone...Click read more...!

What is the purpose of life .. being alive ?
People say its happiness . But I am not looking for happiness maybe . Why people choose paths that are twisted and full of thorns . What is happiness then ?

The very obvious question ...is that love ? No way. I have seen people more in pain due to love . Sleepless nights , anxiety , fear of losing . Now some philosophers will say that is not love . Ok .. tell me why we should think the way some philosopher asks to . The natural feeling we have in ourselves . Is that bad ? How contradictory . Why should we be convincing ourselves that what we want is what we wouldn't . After all losers have to follow those principles in order to console themselves .
In Eleven minutes by Paulo Coelho , Maria doesn't get real love anywhere and so everyday she keeps entering in her diary some philosophies that love is freedom and blah blah . Those who got their love never mentioned or talked about such philosophies .
Anyway , if its not love ,what is it ? Is it peace ?A mother is never at peace . Every second she is worried about their children . If there is absolute peace in life you are dead ! After all life is about ups and downs . You cant enjoy peace unless you walked down paths that were most difficult and challenging for you .
well then wealth ? Did anybody earned a lot and then stopped working to enjoy a life ? The life becomes more and more difficult as you gain more wealth . Poverty causes unhappiness but that doesn't mean wealth brings happiness .
well , I think search for happiness is like searching for a mare's nest .

I wasted enough of my time searching for happiness . I want joy now .
Joy is like sex - it begins and ends . Happiness is like a trap that shows you joy with eternity .But that's just a trap . Do not fall in the trap of happiness . Live the moments .

Inspired by Paulo Coelho ( “The Witch of Portobello” )
Keep rocking...!Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Friend-a msg that came frm my heart

A small message,that came out from my heart..Explains how much a friend is needed by everyone...Click read more...!

When I was 10 years old I had more than 50 friends. Its not an exaggerated figure I tell you. They were really my good friends. I never judged them as good, bad , intelligent or anything . Our needs were trivial as borrowing notes or playing together . I helped when they needed me and vice-versa .Friend in need is a friend indeed . So we were friends !! They visited my house regularly and my mother would often get angry over me why I had so many friends.

After 5 years , I had just 5-10 friends. My perception of things happening around increased . I also started judging people as I could see more in every people . My thoughts were little ruined.. perhaps decayed over time. My needs increased from borrowing just notes and playing together . Although I loved my friends very much , I never stopped judging them . Why people have to judge anyway. Everyone is the way he is . I wish I were 10 years old again . No judging. Everyone is good . I was so happy then .
Now when I am 20 , I doubt if I have any friends . My thoughts are so twisted. I feel different and lonely . And I live almost two parallel lives – the one my friends think I am and the other which is lonely , different , depressed , unpractical and keeps wondering over philosophical thoughts .And I blame my friends for not understanding me . Phew ! I am the one so twisted . I am so fortunate enough that at least they try to understand. People say friend in need is a friend indeed . I want my friend to understand me . That is my need . I want my friend to provide moral support to me. But they cant as they don't understand me .Its not their fault . Does that mean he is not my friend. Definitions and sayings fail too. So what is friendship? Even the best friends split if one is not available for help when he needs one for ,maybe , some valid reasons . I don't know what friendship means . If I stick to definitions .. I am afraid I never had a friend . But I have a company .. . I love them all ..very very much . I don't know whether they are friends or more than friends . I don't want to know . I just want to be with them .

So friends,my sincere advice is not to loose any friends...Remove all the feelings of ego etc and try to be a best friend to everyone....Keep rocking..!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

A small poem that i wanna dedicate to you all

Hey friends,firstly sorry for not updating my blog since a week....Here is a small poem that i feel like dedicating to every reader of my blog...Click read more...!


When I stumble in the darkness,
You're there to pick me up
You sacrificed your life
To wipe away my sins......

The greatest love of all
Is the love you show for me.

There aren't words enough to express..
How grateful I am for you..
To know that such a love exists...

A love so pure and true
A love for just me and you.

One of the sweetest poems that i have ever seen on net...Felt like sharing with you all...Keep rocking...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

How do I know that he is the one for me?

How do I know that he is the one for me? That is a question many of us seek an answer to.

Many women in love are interested to know if the person they love is really the one for them. There is nothing wrong in looking for 'the one' or 'Mr. Right' to share your life with because there can be nothing worse than getting married to the wrong man. You think with your heart and not with your head. But, how do we know that he is the one?

Love is a wonderful feeling where everything appears rosy and lovey-dovey for you. However, the following tips may help one to determine if he is 'the one' for you.

He listens to you: He listens to you when you talk and genuinely takes an interest in things you say. When you need guidance or support he is there for you. He is also comfortable talking to you about everything.

No need to compromise or change: You do not need to compromise or change for him. He accepts you as you are and you can be yourself with him.

You are comfortable with him: He knows each and every aspect of your personality and still loves you with all your negatives and positives.You feel comfortable being with him and you can be yourself without pretences. He makes you feel good about yourself.You can discuss things about your past and also about your future with him and you can visualize a future with him. You can visualize getting older with him.

You trust him: You trust him with your life and know that you would be safe with him. You share a natural chemistry with him that the people around can see it clearly.

He remembers all the special moments: He never forgets days important to you. He also has a good memory when it comes to your memorable moments together like your first date, when you first met or your first kiss.

You love him the way you are: Whether is perfectly groomed or does not look him you love him the way he is and your admiration never ceases. You are comfortable talking about things he does with your close pals and family.

He Enriches Your Life: He enhances the quality of your life. His support and encouragement makes you a better person. He has your best interests in mind.

He Pampers You: He pampers you and shows his love and caring in a several ways that you are special to him. You can feel it in his eyes and the way he looks at you.

He would be there for you even if you would not be in a relationship: He would be your true friend even if he is not your boyfriend or fiance.

You share a common ground and interests mostly.

You are Part of His World: His family, friends and co-workers know you.

He Sacrifices or take troubles for you without considering it as a burden and without complaining.

Many times when we meet women in successful marriages we often hear that they just knew that 'he is the one'. Finally, If you follow your instincts then you are likely to know if he is the one or not for you.

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Wrong Reasons for Staying in a Marriage?

Can there be wrong reasons for staying in a Marriage? 'Yes' is the answer to the Question.

Not all marriages are made in heaven. A marriage in order to be a happy one takes a considerable amount of work from the side of both the couples. There are many couples who stay glued to their miserable and unhappy marriages for various reasons. While there are people who get divorced even if there are chances to save the marriage because it is the easy way out many couples tend to stick to their marriages even if they are miserable and not happy with their relationship. Given are top 10 wrong reasons to stay married.

Staying Married for Children: Many couples are obligated to stay married even if they are in a loveless marriage because they think that a Divorce can affect the children adversely and 2 parents is better than one. Even if they have fallen out of love with their spouse most parents prefer to suffer instead and not part ways as they love their kids and would not want to cause any harm to them. But what they forget is that their frequent fights, behavior with each other and other indifferences can affect the kids too. Just because you have children does not mean that you should suffer miserably in a relationship you don't want to be in. Moreover, by staying together in an unhappy marriage you are teaching your kids that when they get married even if things go wrong they should not go for a divorce but prefer to suffer in the relationship. Think again, is that the example you wish to set for your children?

Staying Married for Financial Security: Money is a great motivator when it comes to staying in miserable marriages.Mostly Woman tends to stay in such marriages because of the comforts and perks they get in the husbands house. The same applies for a man who survives mostly on his wife's income. But one thing they forget is that no amount of money can buy love or happiness. Staying together for money is one of the stupidest things anyone can do!

Staying Married because of Guilt: Many men and women stay in marriages because they feel guilty that they have ruined the other person's life, especially in love marriages. Even if they have fallen out of love with their spouse or fallen in love with someone else they prefer not to let their spouse know about it by staying married. What they forget is that they are being unfaithful and only troubling themselves and not doing their spouses any favors by keeping them in a relationship with someone who doesn't love them anymore.

Staying Married to prove that their choice was right: This happens mostly with couples who have opted for love marriages against the wishes of their parents. When things turn sour they keep the pretence of a happy marriage in front of others to prove that their choice was not wrong and that they are happy with their choices. What they are forgetting is that they are only causing more pain to themselves by doing so.

Staying Married to Honor the Vows: Many couples stay in unhappy marriages because they are made to believe that marriage is forever. It would not be wrong to say that there are many who stay glued to their Marriages because of the marriage vows that marriage is a life time commitment and they are married for better or worse. Staying with someone you don't want to be with because it's expected of you by your religion or community would only make you to suffer more pain and grief.

Staying Married because of low self esteem and loneliness: Many times low self esteem can prevent people from taking the right decisions. You can't blame them because they do not know their worth and do not realize that they can do better. Many men and women with low self esteem even lose hope that they could be happy at all.Women especially tend to find emotional security in their marriages. Even when the marriage show signs of an unhappy marriage there are many people who do not opt out as they are lonely and have no parents or friends to turn to. They find security in their marriage and would not want to step out of their comfort zone even if they are unhappy.

Staying Married because they do not want to be like their Parents: Many Children who have suffered the effects of Divorce of parents stay glued to their marriages because they do not want their children to suffer the way they did or want to be like their own parents.

Been forced to stay together: Many times couples are forced to stay together in marriage because of society pressures and pressures of family or relatives who are worried about their reputation than the feelings of the couples who are miserable and suffering the effects of an unhappy marriage. Remember that you are the one who is suffering and you have the right to rectify the condition.

Staying Married for Property or Assets: Many times, the couple would have build together houses, purchased property or build business together which they are both attached to and would not want to give up for any reason.

Staying Married is less expensive: Some Men feel that staying married is less expensive than getting a Divorce especially if they have to shell out huge alimony settlement for opting out.
I feel that all the above reasons are bad enough. I have personally witnessed some of my friends who were divorced from their miserable first marriages find a very contented and happy second marriage. So, if you are in a marriage for wrong reasons, think again. Is it really worth to be in an unhappy marriage?

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Reasons Why Going Back to an Ex may be the wrong choice

There are plenty of Articles and e-books all over the internet offering relationship advice on 'How to get your Ex back'. It may be tempting to get back to an ex because you are lonely or because you do not want to stay single, but getting back to an ex is not always the best decision. Majority of times this reconciliation with an ex only ends up with a bigger breakup and hurt later. After breakup a relationship requires more trust and care to make it work again. You cannot make someone to change or love you by force; it has to come from the heart of the person. If both the couples cannot wipe out the differences, improve yourself and work together in making a relationship better it is better not to get back with an ex. Many times, it is observed that a relationship is never the same again after a break up. Here are some reasons why Why Going Back to an Ex may be the wrong choice.

You broke up for a reason: You had problems with your relationship which did not work at the first place. It is tempting to go back remembering all the good things about the relationship and ignoring all the bad things and hurt or going back on the hope that your boyfriend or girlfriend would change. But if you have not fixed up the problems which has caused you to breakup I think it is foolishness to get back with your ex.

You need to move on: Time and Tides wait for no man.Believe that the break up happened because there is something better in store for you. Staying glued to your past would only cause you difficulty to move forward in life. Even though you have broken up with you ex you are still at an advantage. You have learned from your mistakes in the relationship and this experience can help you to make your next relationship better.

The relationship would never be the same again: Once the trust in a relationship is gone it is very difficult to re-establish it again. If it is infidelity of an ex, lying or addictions which has resulted you in parting would you be able to trust him or her completely again? Moreover, it is the human mentality to cause hurt to the person who has hurt you. Even if the person has changed and you got back with him or her because of that it is only natural to remind the person the reasons why you two spitted earlier during fights.

Life is too short to be wasting: Did you get back into the relationship hoping that your ex would change? Are you still in a miserable relationship hoping that some miracle would happen and then you would live happily ever after? You may see such things happen in Movies but they are far from reality. People do not change that fast. People can change their outward appearances or can pretend for some time. But unless the transformation has not happened from the heart they are bound to show their true colors soon. You do not need someone whom you need to change but someone whom you can accept as they are. So it is better to look elsewhere than trying to change your ex or stay in the relationship hoping that your boyfriend or girlfriend would change one day.

You could not keep him earlier: If your ex was the one who broke your trust and resulted in the breakup, what is the guarantee that he won't do it again? As the saying goes,' once a cheat, always a cheat'. It is observed that people whom you trust too much are the once who mostly break your trust. Also forgiving a person for infidelity or abuse can make a person think and take it for granted that you would forgive them again.

Breaking up or recovering from a break up completely can be a hard thing. But if you remove the old relationship clutter from your life, it is not hard either. Believe that you have a better life in store and that you would find someone who would treat you the way you deserved to be treated and whom you would not want to break up with. So, do not get back to an Ex because you deserve better.

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Picture explaining love @ first sight

A wonderful image that has a lot of meaning......I liked it very much...Found it while moving through Google images.....Random selection....But its awesome...Hope you like it too...Keep rocking...!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

5 tips for a perfect relationship

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Relationships can play a major role in our lives.However, not all relationships are healthy. Sometimes we associate with people who may not have our best interests in mind. It’s vital that you learn to recognize a healthy relationship from a harmful one.However any relationship can seems to be an intimate one.That is,it’s totally normal to look at the world through rose-coloured glasses in the early stages of a relationship. But for some people, those rose-coloured glasses turn into blinders that keep them from seeing that a relationship isn’t as healthy as it should be.
You can have an intimate relationship with anyone. An intimate relationship is one in which you can truly be yourself with someone who you respect and are respected by in return. It is an emotional connection that can also be physical.Many people think that “intimate” means being physically intimate, such as being in a sexual relationships. However, an intimate relationship can be with anyone who you are really close to and with whom you can be completely open and honest. Intimate relationships afford you the opportunity to grow as an individual.
Relationships are difficult to maintain when they are filled with conflict, negativity and a lack of trust. For the most part, people want the same thing from a romantic partner. People want spouses and partners who are:Understanding,Appreciative,Respectful,Caring and kind,Helpful,Trustworthy, Positive,Fun to be around.

What Makes a Healthy Relationship?
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1.Mutual respect:
Respect is the first positive step in building a relationship .A relationship without mutual respect can never be happy and healthy. Mutual respect is absolutely necessary in a good relationship .Each partner has a right to privacy. Being a couple does not give you the right to invade your partner’s privacy. Love involves trust and this preclude any spying on your partner.
There may be things that you love to do and your partner hates and vice versa. That shouldn’t mean that both of you can’t do the things you love. You can enjoy the things you enjoy on your own or with friends or family members. Or, you and your partner can stretch a little once in a while and share these things even though they are your favorite things. you should be able to discuss anything with your partner in a reasonable manner. If you can’t it is time to take a good long look at yourself.Relationships work the best when partners have a lot in common, but respect and appreciate the differences that do exist. It helps to appreciate someone for who they are rather than try to change them or how they behave.
Everyone has a right to an opinion even if it is not considered accurate by someone else. The right to have an opinion is not limited to accuracy and you should definitely remember this in your relationship.

2.Trust:
Trust is the central pillar supporting any real relationship. With so much at stake, be it emotions, finances, children or future goals, there needs to be implicit trust for love to fully develop. Building trust in a relationship takes hard work and commitment. Trust requires that you listen to each other and communicate your needs.
It’s OK to get a little jealous sometimes — jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There’s no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don’t trust each other.Relationships work the best when partners reassure each other of their love and commitment. It never hurts to tell a spouse that you love him or her and that you will always be there.Trust, after all, is the glue that holds couples together – even when they face great challenges. Without trust, couples might be more likely to split in times of crises, fail at getting intimate, and have doubts about each other. Couples who trust each other have security and probably feel closer.So trust is an essential key to healthy relationship.Be predictable and learn to share things and secretes.Once you’ve built trust, you’ve done something magical, and you should do everything in your power to keep it if you plan on maintaining your relationship.
And above all trust requires honesty above all else.

3.Honesty:
Honesty is vital to the health of all relationships. Mutual trust, openness, and understanding are the key contributors to feelings of friendship and intimacy. Conversely it is very hard to be in a relationship with a person who distorts or withholds information critical to that relationship.Yet there are internal tensions that can pull us away from truth-telling. One of the most powerful of these forces is fear - fear of what other persons will think of us or how they will use the information we reveal. n a relationship, any relationship, complete honesty is always needed. In fact, honesty should be part of the relationship’s foundation. The principle behind it is that basically, no one likes being lied to, and if a relationship is to flourish, it should not be peppered with lies.
In the end, the truth shall come out. You are not only in danger of losing him when the truth behind the lies is finally revealed, but you would also lose yourself in the process. Losing yourself is one of the worst possible outcomes in the end of a relationship; sometimes, it is hard to regain the sense of who you truly are.People need to be able to talk freely with a romantic partner. Sharing what is going on in one’s life and how one feels about issues is important to do. But, being open with a partner is not always easy because it requires spouses to tell the truth and to LISTEN to things that may be difficult to hear. Listening in an attempt to UNDERSTAND, not control, evaluate, or judge is critical to having an satisfying relationship.

4.Support:
Couples feel closer and are more satisfied with their relationships when they approach problems and difficulties as a team. Couples who take an US versus the PROBLEM, rather than a YOU versus ME approach to conflict are much happier in the long run.It’s not just in bad times that your partner should support you. Some people are great when your whole world is falling apart but can’t take being there when things are going right (and vice versa). In a healthy relationship, your significant other is there with a shoulder to cry on when you need it the most.

5.Care:
Nothing in this world stays long and steady.As times goes by everything under the sun changes.So it is necessary to keep thing in care in order to maintain their goodness.This is also true for love.Care in what needed to maintain a good relationship rolling.’Cause rolling sione gather no moss!Over time, couples typically take each other for granted. At the start of a relationship people appreciate all the things that their partners do for them. However, as time goes on, people tend to expect more, but acknowledge a partner’s contributions less often. To keep a relationship happy and healthy it is important to show appreciation on a consistent basis.

These 5 things are your key to a successful relationship.Relationships can be one of the best — and most challenging — parts of your world. They can be full of fun, romance, excitement, intense feelings, and occasional heartache, too. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, remember that it’s good to be choosy about who you get close to. If you’re still waiting, take your time and get to know plenty of people.
Think about the qualities you value in a friendship and see how they match up with the ingredients of a healthy relationship. Work on developing those good qualities in yourself — they make you a lot more attractive to others. And if you’re already part of a pair, make sure the relationship you’re in brings out the best in both of you.
And always remember ‘The best relationship is the one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other’.

Thats what i have to say...Wonderful post isnt it..?Keep rocking,Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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Wrong Reasons to Get Back to an Ex Boyfriend

I see many people wanting to go back to their ex after the breakup. Why do you want to go back to an ex? Is going back to an ex Boyfriend the right thing to do? Before getting back to an ex it is important to have an answer to these questions. Women go back to their ex for several reasons, including some wrong ones too.

Some of the right reasons to get back to an ex can be your love for him, realization that he is the one or because the reason for the break up was a misunderstanding which has cleared now. There can be many wrong reasons why women get back to their ex too. Getting back to ex for wrong reasons can be a recipe for disaster which may end up in a worse breakup and hurt. Given are some wrong reasons or motivations people use to get back together with their ex.

You are lonely: You have being emotionally dependent on your ex for long and now you are feeling lost or lonely without him and miss him a lot. But you need to understand that this is only a temporary phase and you would be right soon without him.
Your friends and family are forcing you to get back to him: Many times friends and family tend to interfere with what you need to do and what not to do. Many times women are forced by their family or friends to go back to an ex. Remember that you are the one who need to make the relationship work and not them so you should do what you want to do and do not let others decide for you.
You do not want to stay Single: It has become a habit for you to be with him. You would rather not spend time finding another guy or getting to know him but would prefer being together with him because being single pisses you off.
You want revenge: Your Ex dumped you and you want to take revenge on him. Who is he to dump you? You would rather get him back and then dump him. But you tend to forget that in your madness for revenge you are wasting your time and may hurt yourself emotionally.
You remember the happier times together: The happier moments you spend with ex makes you want to go back to him again. But you tend to forget that they are history now and that there are differences between you which have caused you to break up at the first place. It is foolishness to forget about all of the bad things which has happened between you because you have an emotional void that you need to fill.
You have a bet to keep: You have a bet to keep that you would get your guy back.
You expect him to change: You are getting back to him on hope that he would change one day. But life is too short to waste hoping that the ex would change one day. The fact is that people do not change that fast.
Jealousy: You have broken up with your ex but you cannot stand the thought of him being with another girl so you are getting back to your ex.

A Relationship which is broken would not be the same again like how a broken stick cannot be joined together so that it looks like it was never broken. Differences and troubles are likely to appear again in such relationships that it ends with a worse hurt or pain. So if you wish together get back with your ex only for the right reasons or otherwise do not get back to an ex.

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Why should I get Married? Is Marriage a Necessity?

The other day I was talking to a friend who is 35 and still unmarried when he is plans to get married with his live in girlfriend he asked me, 'Is marriage a necessity?' I replied, 'No, You can be Single and Happy too.'

The institution of marriage is increasingly threatened in our society because of live in relationships where a guy and girl live together under one roof without the ties or responsibilities of marriage. Let us not forget that Marriage is not a new concept but has been around for thousands of years as the way of celebrating the love and commitment between a man and a woman. I am of the opinion that if an individual is not ready to take up the responsibilities which comes along with marriage he or she should not attempt it.

Marriage is a 'lifestyle choice' and not a 'default option'. However, there are several benefits of Marriage. So, why marriage is so important? What is it that makes Marriage a necessity for many?

Unmarried Women, after a certain age, are not treated well by the society. So it becomes a necessity for them to get married to gain the acceptance of society. Moreover, men in love would not want to lose their girlfriends so they would prefer to get married to them.

When you want children you do not want them born out of wedlock. How much ever the society is advanced children of unmarried parents is not treated well. So it is not wrong to say that marriage promotes the common good by building families and raising children.

When you are single you tend to get into immoralities and bad habits. Marriage can make an individual more responsible and also help to be a better person because you know that there is someone who cares for you and whose life is depends on you.

Marriage helps one to gain social acceptance and legal rights apart from the feel of security that there is someone for you who cares for you and with whom you can share your happiness and sorrow.

By getting married you get a steady and loving life partner who has social and religious acceptance. With the number of sexually transmitted diseases and dangers it is better to have only one partner for sex.

It is known that married people have a longer life expectancy than someone who is Single.

The above given are a few Benefits of Marriage to prove that the institution of marriage is worth safeguarding. However, many people tend to be scared of getting married because they have seen the unhappy marriage of someone who is known to them. Just because there are miserable relationships does not mean that you would have an unhappy marriage too.

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