Deciding about Committment

Many men feel hard to answer the question about ‘making a commitment’, some of them will say that they are not afraid of committed but this is not the right time, they still want to pursue their career, they haven’t found the right woman etc. Actually what is the problem?Click read more to know that...!

He is nervous to face the word of ‘Forever’.
Generally, a couple wants to marry for good, you won’t find a promise of marriage which says ‘I promise to be your husband / wife only for two years’ :P . Whatever will happen in the marriage later, a couple will promise to live together ever after, or it means ‘Forever’.
Hmmm ‘Forever’? So it means that you will always see the same face everyday, you will sleep and wake-up with the same person for years, you can’t stare to other women anymore, and you will share all aspects of your life with only one woman.
According to Carl Weisman, the author of book entitled ‘So why you never have been married?, the sentence which says ‘live together ever after’ often makes man feels afraid to bring a relationship into a serious stage.
When the woman is falling in love and doesn’t think too much about the definition of ‘Forever’, in the other hand man will think the opposite. The tendency of thinking logically makes man defines the word ‘Forever’ into a count of year or

He is more afraid of divorce rather than marriage.
Why is he nervous with the word ‘Forever’? It’s because man realizes that marriage has a difficult risk, namely ‘divorce’. Divorce is one of the reasons why man is afraid to get married, so he is not afraid of the marriage itself.
He hasn’t tried it, then why is he afraid of divorce? Man thinks that everything will develop along with the time, of course this development will also make people change. Man is not sure if the changes that happen to him and his wife will still make him able to live together with the same person forever. Beside that, according to Weisman, the decision to marry or not, is also related with man’s success in career and financial. His success in career makes him feel more confident to face the next challenge, which is making a commitment with a woman. And his ability to make lot of money is also a guarantee that he is able to feed his family in the future.

Be patient and find the answer
According to the research that has been done by Weisman, the number of men who haven’t been married in the age of 40-44 years-old was only about 6% in 1980, but unfortunately this number increased till 17% in 2000. It means that women today have bigger challenge to ask a man to get married.
So how should you face a man who is reluctant to get married? You better be patient and try to ask him about his reason delaying the marriage. At least you can see this situation from the positive perspective; your couple is not easy to get married because he thinks that a marriage is an important and serious matter for his life.
Instead of feeling stress dealing with this situation, you better try to improve your quality as a woman, because if it’s not him who takes the opportunity to marry you, there must be a better man who wants to marry you. Patience is important, but you must also set the time tolerance. If he has exceeded your limit, you better move on and don’t waste your time for uncertain promise.
So dont worry buddies........Be patient and decide something...Keep rocking....!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik