Life definitely is not a bed of roses for all. We see so many couples who stay glued to their marriages because of reasons like kids, financial security, guilt, loneliness, society etc even if they are unhappy and miserable in their relationships. Sometimes one or both of the couples in troubled marriages spend their entire lifetime trying to make the relationship work thinking some miracle will happen and things would change. I agree that you should Stop your Divorce and Save your Marriage but when things cannot be mended it is better to cut the losses and break off. Living an unhappy life for staying married is just not worth it.
While writing on this topic I can’t help remembering a college friend of mine whose husband used to beat her every single day for some reason or other and even though she knew that she had made a mistake marrying the guy against the parent’s wishes suffered everything for several years and hoping that things would change. But she hoped in vain and her husband who was a Muslim even married again. She used to get beaten up for reasons like talking to neighbors and for not asking her parents money to finance his needs. He found fault with her on everything she does and used to beat her black and blue and she suffered silently because by running away with this guy she had already given pain to her parents and did not want to cause them more pain by telling them that she was unhappy and miserable. After she gave birth to a girl child things became even worse for her and finally when she could not take it anymore she found her relief in suicide. By the time her parents came to know about how the guy was treating her through the letter she posted with the help of a neighbor it was too late to do anything. Though her parents approached the court of law based on the evidence they did not get the justice they deserved.
Sometimes couples in troubled marriages who have taken their time in getting into the marriage contract and promised to live together for lifelong are not very patient in fixing the problems and saving the marriage. The fact is that in a marriage you do not go to bed one night with a good one and wake up the next morning with a failed one. When problems between the couples are ignored for a long time and not sorted out it is only natural that the relationship would turn miserable. Rescuing your relationship and resuming your love life is not an easy task to do but not a difficult one either if you know what the problem is, work on fixing the problem and then get back to old times. It takes both the efforts of partners to make a relationship work. If either or one of the partners fails to do his or her part it may lead to an unhappy marriage. Most problems can be sorted out between the couple by communicating or by visiting a marriage councilor together and take advice on how to save the marriage. If your marriage is worth saving why not do everything in your power to save it but without wasting too much time.
Some years back a Billboard proclaiming "Life's short. Get a Divorce" by a Chicago Divorce Lawyers Firm caused enough of an uproar and criticism from all over. However, I see nothing wrong in that. Divorce may not be the answer to marriage problems. But when there is no hope of salvaging the relationship I guess one should count their losses and move forward in life. Whatever the reasons are I don’t think it is worth staying in a troubled and miserable marriage. After all, life is short to be wasted unhappy. What do you say?
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While writing on this topic I can’t help remembering a college friend of mine whose husband used to beat her every single day for some reason or other and even though she knew that she had made a mistake marrying the guy against the parent’s wishes suffered everything for several years and hoping that things would change. But she hoped in vain and her husband who was a Muslim even married again. She used to get beaten up for reasons like talking to neighbors and for not asking her parents money to finance his needs. He found fault with her on everything she does and used to beat her black and blue and she suffered silently because by running away with this guy she had already given pain to her parents and did not want to cause them more pain by telling them that she was unhappy and miserable. After she gave birth to a girl child things became even worse for her and finally when she could not take it anymore she found her relief in suicide. By the time her parents came to know about how the guy was treating her through the letter she posted with the help of a neighbor it was too late to do anything. Though her parents approached the court of law based on the evidence they did not get the justice they deserved.
Sometimes couples in troubled marriages who have taken their time in getting into the marriage contract and promised to live together for lifelong are not very patient in fixing the problems and saving the marriage. The fact is that in a marriage you do not go to bed one night with a good one and wake up the next morning with a failed one. When problems between the couples are ignored for a long time and not sorted out it is only natural that the relationship would turn miserable. Rescuing your relationship and resuming your love life is not an easy task to do but not a difficult one either if you know what the problem is, work on fixing the problem and then get back to old times. It takes both the efforts of partners to make a relationship work. If either or one of the partners fails to do his or her part it may lead to an unhappy marriage. Most problems can be sorted out between the couple by communicating or by visiting a marriage councilor together and take advice on how to save the marriage. If your marriage is worth saving why not do everything in your power to save it but without wasting too much time.
Some years back a Billboard proclaiming "Life's short. Get a Divorce" by a Chicago Divorce Lawyers Firm caused enough of an uproar and criticism from all over. However, I see nothing wrong in that. Divorce may not be the answer to marriage problems. But when there is no hope of salvaging the relationship I guess one should count their losses and move forward in life. Whatever the reasons are I don’t think it is worth staying in a troubled and miserable marriage. After all, life is short to be wasted unhappy. What do you say?
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