Does Love conquer everything...?

Does LOVE really conquer everything in this world...?It is one of the toughest questions to be answered..I am writing my opinion regarding this concept..Might be different from your way of thinking...Please dont mind if i speak anything wrong regarding this but its strictly MY OPINION...Click read more...!


Many people believe that love is everything, many believe love can conquer all. Does love really conquer all? I am one of the few people who don't think it can.

Sometimes love alone is not enough. It is certainly very important and does help one get through bad times. Love alone does not conquer some circumstances, and issues such as broken promises, physical and emotional abuse, chronic diseases, etc. Love itself cannot heal the psychological wounds within a relationship, if it is not combined with real emotional work. Love can help motivate, but it takes decision and ambition to conquer all.


Love may go a long way in conquering almost all, only if the love that's on the receiving end does not have any limits or judgements for the love that's given. And if the love that's being given does not have any judgements or limits on the love that's being received, it's all about mutuality in a relationship. But we are only human and the likelihood of this balance of understanding succeeding is mostly unlikely. It is always a risk giving your unlimited love to someone and if you do find that balance, that's amazing.


A friend of mine said: "Love (not restricted to the one between a man and a woman) may not conquer all, but it may open many doors." So now should I believe it can conquer all of those closed doors and the locked ones?.

Thats what i confidently feel....Love alone is not enough..We meed to have strong dedication/determination to stand alone fighting with the whole world if necessary....Keep rocking...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Health tip for all computer users :)

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For everyone who works daily on a computer.The mistakes daily mouse and keyboard usage will result in CARPAL TUNNEL SYNDROME...!Use the mose and keyboard correctly..View below for the right techniques....Click read more to know about them...!
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Correct way to work on a computer

Hand exercises for Carpal Tunnel Syndrome

So friends,use it correctly...Be healthy..Thats wat i expect..Health and happiness....Keep rocking...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

How can I let a Guy know that I like him?

I got a mail from one of my regular reader’s asking for advice on letting a Guy whom she has known for 3 years that she likes him. So I thought I would write an article on how to tell a guy that you like him.

Girls are a little shy when it comes to expressing themselves. It is also very important for a girl to be not too aggressive when expressing themselves because that can scare or put off many guys. Sometimes guys are too shy that the girl has to take the first step by asking him for a date. Many times the girl may be friends with this guy and gets along well which has developed into a strong liking for him. In such cases it is much easier to express your feelings for the guy. 

Many times the girls do not express their feelings for fear that they may be rejected and by telling the guy you like that person that they may lose that person forever as a friend. This happened with a close friend of mine. Both my friend and the guy she loved never dared to express their real feelings for each other because of fear of losing a friend only to later find out years later that their feelings were mutual. My friend is now trapped in an unhappy marriage which she does not want to break because of her two children. She still mutters ‘If only I said that I loved him then…’ Now she feels that things are too late to change. There is a saying that ‘if you love/like someone you should express it now, tomorrow may be too late’. If you don't say something, you can bet you will regret it. Rather than wondering ‘what if’ it is better to express your feelings for that person.

So you don't know how to bring it to his attention that you like him? What are some ways to let someone know you like them or find if he likes you too? Try to know him even more by spending more and more time with him without being too desperate or needy. The modern day tools like, Mobile Phones, YM, Skype and other chat messaging tools are a great way to build a relationship.

Send an ‘I like you’ text message or mail without worrying how he will accept it. If he accepts it’s positively then you can boldly ask him for a date. Even if he is rejecting you, if he is your friend, the chances are that he would turn you down very nicely and it should not affect your friendship.

Send him an 'I like you' Card.

Many times his behavior and body language gives indications that he likes you. Just watch out for signs that he likes you and if you are seeing any positive sign then do not fear to express your feelings to him. You may ask him for a coffee out or assistance with something and let know what you feel.

The best way to tell someone how you feel about him is directly. Just go for it with full confidence that the feeling is mutual.

Show him in many ways that you care for him and is concerned about him. If he is a smart guy he should get the message. However, be genuine around him. Nobody will like someone who is pretending. Let him like you for what you are.

Smile at him where ever you make an eye contact with him (if you are bold you may even give him a wink). Most men should get the message when you smile in a sensual and intimate manner only meant for him. Similarly the way you look at him with that special glow in your eyes, touch him or the way you behave around him can say a lot about your feelings for him. Try to be beautiful to him and appear at your best when he is around. Let your body speak for you.

Try flirting with him a little however do not be too clingy. If you are good friends with him then drop lots of real clues and hints.

Compliment him often. Express appreciation for the qualities he have and his interests and mean it too. Be sure to remember his special days.

Do not do the talking all the time but listen to what he has to say more and use the time to watch him. Everyone likes someone to talk too and your guy is no different. By being a patient listener you would grab his attention. 

Whether you're shy or just too old-fashioned to ask a guy out you owe it to yourself to find ways to say how you are feeling.

My Dearest Daughter

Dear all,here is a wonderful pictorial representation of a nice message...Its the best of the emails that i have received till today.....Specially for the female sector of my blog...Click read more and read with attention..!

These may be simple pics but they hold a wonderful message....Please read wid attention and later understand with affection...!

Thnxx to Raju annaya for sharing this....Keep rocking friends....!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Signs Single Women should watch out while Dating Online

Many Single Women are now turning to Online Dating to find their Mr. Right because of the immense popularity of internet dating sites and their ability to get access to a wide network of people. Most of these sites are totally free of charge for members to use. However, single women should exercise great caution while Dating Online. It is said that more than 70% of men in such sites are married or already in a relationship but on the lookout for easy sex and those involved in scams online. Be on the watch out for warning signs or signals while using such websites. It is there by best for women not to give too many personal details while chatting online or take the relationship forward before making double sure that the guy is indeed a genuine one. It is advisable that you get all of the details of the Guy first and then decide if they fit the bill or not.

I personally happen to know many men who are married, involved in a relationship or dating who are members of such sites. These types of Guys are in such sites looking for sex or extramarital affairs. Many such Guys may claim to be unmarried or divorced. Some warning signals would be unavailability of a photo on profile or much detail. They may tell you excuses like insecurity of online data and pictures and may promise to send you photo once you send your details. The actual fact is that these people are scared of been noticed by someone who already know them. Also such Guys may not give you their home number and may only give you a mobile number and say that you can only call them at work during normal working hours. They also may suggest that you meet them during lunch hours or office timings instead of weekends or evenings as they would not want to create suspicion in the mind of their actual partners. One of my friends who was dating a ‘sweet guy online’ and was very serious about him noticed when she met him for the first time in a mall for a coffee that he had the mark which comes from continuously wearing a ring on the wedding ring finger and confronted him about it. First he refused saying that it was some ring he wore astrologically. But after meeting a few more times he gave out more signals that he is not single and when she confronted him again he admitted that he is married but his spouse has made his life miserable and that she is still continuing the affair she had prior to marriage. He even went ahead and told her that he fell in love with her on first sight and then promised that he would get a divorce soon so that the two of them can get married and live happily ever after. My friend believed him again and by the time she realized that she was the home breaker and the wife of the guy was nothing like what the guy had described it was already late and she had broken her heart.

There is no foolproof method to know if a guy is genuine or not but many times what a Guy says or what he does not say may tell a lot more about him. Some things you can try is chat him on his messenger id and try to dig as much details from him before deciding to meet in person. Save chat summaries for reference later. After some time send him an invite to chat as another female with entirely different details and watch out his response. You may also take your friend’s assistance on this. Also try to get hold of his Social Networking or Micro blogging sites details and make friends with his female friends, check out his wall etc for suspicious signs. If he is not giving his other site id try googling his details. Many times, when you ask him a question which you have asked earlier you may get a different answer from him. Sometimes you would find contradictory details in his profile pages too which may be an indication that he is lying. In fact, you can find all sorts of people in Dating Sites. While some are after free sex (including phone or cyber sex addicts), some are after your money or for a job with your help or citizenship. Many times such men fall prey to another man pretending to be a woman which serves them right. Anyways, as a woman it is better to be cautious of the risks than regret later.

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Typical Human Relations(funny)

Hey readers....Ram is back again wid another funny post....Present generation lo relations madhyalo ela untunayi thoughts ani cheppataniki ee funny post....Not to point out anyone,edo saradaga navvukuntaru ani....Thnx to Raju annaya :)

Keep rocking....!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Friendship-another way to explain it in a funny way

Hey readers,here is a small pictorial representation of friendship...Its a bit funny but has a nice message...Click read more...!

Funny isnt it...?Thnxx to HK Raju annaya for sharing this....Keep rocking..!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Why Your Relationship Isn’t Working..?

Why Your Relationship Isn’t Working...?A wonderful article by RaymondBork.....A nice mail that i got from one of my friends....Thankyou buddy for dedicating such a nice article...Click read more...!

If your relationship is in trouble, then fixing it has not been a priority. It’s tucked somewhere in between your work, rest, home life, hobbies and other stuff going on in your life. That is also true for a diet plan, not working, or anything else not being resolved, because you are not giving it your undivided attention. Your excuses will come thick and fast “I’ll see how the relationship works out when we go on holiday.” or “I’m too busy or too tired to do anything about it.”

Now just say I offered you that holiday with £5,000 spending money, free, if you would sort your relationship out! Heck, I will throw in a new car as well! Wouldn’t that fantastic offer concentrate your mind on sorting out your problem relationship? I’ve given you six weeks to sort it out before you jet off to Hawaii.

What would you do in that time to fix your troubled relationship? Why, you would be totally focussed on the task in hand, taking positive steps in reaching your goal, communicating, listening to your partner’s concerns, etc.

I am a much happier person when I am content in my relationship. Sure, there’s other stuff that bugs me a lot, but my relationship is my bedrock. All the other nasty things life throws at me, is shared with my partner. Together we moan about the bills, the government, and lack of money.

Now that you have decided to prioritize your relationship problems, you need to set your goal – You, of course, want to be happy and content in your relationship with your partner. Try this simple four point F.A.T.E. template:

F: Focus – Prioritize the problem you want to resolve and make it your mission in life to reach your goal.

A: Achievable – You need to be sure that it is your core belief. It’s what you want or everything else you need to do will get bogged down by indifference.

T: Time – You should have a time scale to work to. This should motivate you to work on achieving your desired result.

E: Execute – Take action to do what’s needed to fix your relationship.

So much can be achieved by prioritizing your troubled relationship, but only when you recognize it’s importance to you and how much you want it.

Writing this post has made me think about my life, the successes and failures. I regret some of the actions I took and decisions made. Not one of them have anything to do with work or career, but everything to do with relationships, love and being part of someone’s life.

Author Bio:

Raymond Bork is an ex rock musician, turned author, writing informative eBooks to help you through relationship problems.

Diagnosis of Relationships

Some important points to be noticed in your relationships...Click read more...!

Over the course of my blogging, It seems that all the problems, or at least a good portion of problems that couples have, are not new in the scheme of relationships. I’d like to try and expand and refine one of the consistent ideas that I’ve said in reply to comments and advice given.
Before looking for a serious relationship, take a moment to think about what I’m saying here in this tenant. It may just solve some heartache before it ever has a chance to happen.

The tenants of relationships:

1. Know who you are and what you want for yourself

2. Know who they are and what they want for themselves

3. Communicate openly and honestly with each other.

Know who you are and what you want for yourself.

This one should be the easiest because who knows us better than ourselves? If we are not sure who we are, then it’s time for some soul searching. What we want can change over time, but being honest with ourselves should keep this somewhat simple to recognize.

Know who they are and what they want for themselves.

We are not mind readers and can only hope that the other person knows themselves and what they want. More importantly, that they communicate that with us openly and honestly. Time is the key element here and most times we have plenty of it, so take your time in finding out who that person is and if they are what we are looking for.

Communicate openly and honestly with each other.

If both people do this, then wasted time will be cut down to a minimum. Unfortunately, in a world full of players, liars and phonies, we don’t always have this benefit. I can only say see number 1 above and take your time.

Communication and honesty are so important to relationships that they both need to be defined, expanded and sincerely evaluated in each of us. I’ll hopefully be dealing with these two shortly.Keep rocking...!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Is the presentday technology ruining our relationships...?

Present generation is a world depending on the increasing TECHNOLOGY...Am i right..?Wid this i have noticed that few relationships are being destroyed because of the increasing technology...Click read more to read that...!

Our ability to connect more easily to the rest of the world seems to have left many people less connected in their real life relationships. I’m always amazed at how many people I see ignoring the person next to them while they talk or text on cell phones or check emails on BlackBerries. I also notice how many people post problems to me that are centered around technology invading their homes in the form of FaceBook, chatrooms, and even video games.

I’ve seen before about the problems that come from using technology for any type of cybersex relationship, and most people seem to recognize how this behavior can be destructive to a relationship. For this post, I’m focusing on uses of technology that we usually view as harmless and even a “natural” part of everyday life. These “harmless” technologies can be just as harmful to a relationship because we accept them as part of our lives, yet they can take away precious time that we should be spending with our loved ones. With that said, I do think that by following some rules that are really rooted in common courtesy, that we can eliminate letting technology destroy our relationships.

Cell Phones- If you are out with a real live person, enjoy their company and forget about the phone. Unless it’s your child, or some dire emergency call, just let it go to voice mail and call them back later. In any case, there is never a reason to be on a long phone call while you are out with someone. The most offensive thing is when I see people that are on a cell phone while they are out having dinner with someone. The other person looks bored to tears. To add insult to injury, when you catch a bit of their conversation you will often hear the person say into their phone “nothing, what are you doing?” The rules for texting and mobile email are the same as for talking–emergency use only.

“Socializing” on the Internet- This includes FaceBook, Twitter, chatrooms, or any other form of socializing on the internet. If the time you spend with friends online takes away from time that you can spend with real live people, then there is a problem. I hear complaints all the time from men and women about how their partner will ignore them and sit in front of the computer for hours updating Twitter and FaceBook. As a general rule, I don’t think that you should be socializing on the internet when there are people around you that you can socialize with. I also think it’s a problem if you turn down opportunities to socialize in person in favor of staying home and “socializing” on your computer.

Video Games- Until recently, I thought that video game addiction was strictly a problem that only affected kids. Of course video games have been around for quite some time now. So these kids have had a chance to grow into adults that may never have broken this addiction.

I read about one very sad case where a woman was struggling with how to manage her husband’s video game addiction. He was ignoring her as well as many of his responsibilities in favor of playing these games. She tried learning the games to turn this into something that they could do together, but it consumed too much time. Setting limits on the time spent playing was another thing that she tried, but the addiction almost seemed like that of an alcoholic. Even the smallest amount of playing seemed to turn into hours. After reading her story I really felt that it sounded like he needed to go “cold turkey” when it came to playing video games.

So whether the problem is cell phones, the internet or video games, technology is something that should make our lives simpler. When technology starts to complicate our lives by harming our personal relationships, then it’s time to make some changes in our behavior. If you find that you have trouble setting and sticking to limits on your use of technology, then you may need to seek professional help. It may seem strange to think about seeking help for a technology addiction but it’s better to address it rather than reaching the point where you are more comfortable interacting through technology rather than having face to face conversations.

So what do you think? Can using technology be a real addiction?If you are by chances addicted to anyof the above mentioned things,please forgo them and join your partners for a healthy and lovely relationships...Keep rocking..!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Wanted a Fair Skinned Bride

We often see matrimonial ads looking for fair skinned bride. In the marriage market fair skinned brides are of great demand and if the girl is a little dark then it is difficult for getting a groom. Recently there was a report of a dark skinned girl been tortured and thrown out by the in-laws barely days after her marriage with their son because of her dark skin. If the girl is dark then she is a constant worry to her parents especially in India. The grooms parents also seem to keep more demands in terms of dowry if the girl is dark skinned and the parents of the bride also meet these demands because of fear of society and making the girl sit at home even after marriageable age. Even dark skinned guys only seem to want to get married to fair skinned girls. What is more, dark-skinned girls are often discriminated not only by society but also at their own homes. It is a pity that we Indians call ourselves a united country but openly discriminate based on caste, language, sex, colour, creed, place of origin and anything else we can think of. While I do not support evils of the society like domestic violence and dowry I also think one should stop discriminating based on skin colour. 

When will our notion that Fair is beautiful-dark is ugly end? When will the obsession for fair skin end? Does light skin always mean beautiful skin?  Will their ever be any value to the beauty of the mind or character? Unfortunately the marriage market is not the only place where a dark skinned faces a problem. Dark skinned girls also seem to face problems in getting jobs. Fortunately, some how some dusky complexion girls have made a mark in the film, television and fashion industry giving a ray of hope for other girls who are not fair skinned. The television advertisements also promote the concept that ‘fair is beautiful’. That’s why you see advertisements daily on television or other Medias about various skin beauty products like face creams, lotions or soaps claiming to make one fair in 14 days or even 7 days by exploiting the mentality of society that one has to be fair skinned to be beautiful. Many spend a substantial part of their earnings on fairness products and treatments. However, not everyone can be Michael Jackson to do high cost treatments. Dark skinned girls are under tremendous pressure to succumb to the fair and beautiful complex which may often lead to depression, inferiority complex, low esteem and mental disorders. We also recently had Television Shows like ‘Bidaai’ which is the story of two sisters (one fair skinned and the other dark skinned) on Star Plus which showed the discrimination based on skin.

While the external beauty also matters to some extent, I think, the real beauty is what is within and how you feel about yourself. There is a saying ‘If you feel that you are beautiful, you are’. There is nothing to be ashamed because you are dark but be proud of what you are and your inner qualities.

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How to know if your Guy is serious about you

When you are in a Dating you would want to know if the Guy is serious about you or if your relationship may lead to marriage. How to know if that person is the one for you? How to know that he is as committed to you as you are with him? You may get some hints or signs of seriousness or dedication often if you keep a watch on him. Given below are some signs of seriousness or dedication from the Guy.

He uses ‘we’ when referring to each other instead of ‘I’ or ‘you’.

He spends a lot of quality time with you. He may even cancel meetings with his friends to be with you. If he is unable to meet you due to something he would always call you in advance to let you know or even fix a next date with you.

He always makes efforts to please you. He picks the places you like to go or even do things which you like to when you are together. He may even go out of his way to make you happy or take an interest in your interests.

He calls you often to check how you are and what you are doing. He may even call you for no reason or just because he wanted to hear your voice.

He speaks of long time plans with you like retirements, goals in life, building a home together, having children etc.

He does not see you different from and treats your problems like his own and when ever you need he is always there for you.

He makes efforts to get to know your friends and family and also introduces him to his family and close friends.

He likes showing you off and your time together is not just restricted to indoors.

If he is serious about you it can be seen in his eyes, the way her looks.

He is not scared of admitting that the two of you are dating or you are his girlfriend without any hesitation.

He may ask your opinion or discuss about any major decisions he wants to take.

His friends treat you nice and even his secretary puts your call through immediately when you call and is extra friendly with you.

He talks about his ex only in casual terms which is an indication that he has moved on already from his earlier relationship.

He may hide his troubles and problems from you, not because he does not trust you, but he does not want you to be worried.

You may notice his jealousy streak when you deliberately comment on a hot guy on the street or even in a movie.

Your gifts are his cherished possessions and you see him using the thing you complimented on very often.

He keeps his promises to you.

Finally if he is the one, your heart would say so too.

If you are seeing each other for a long time and find that your relationship is not going anywhere and you are wasting your time with a guy who is not serious enough to commit it makes sense to dump him and find someone who will give you the respect and commitment you deserve. If you are lucky maybe he would realize your worth and come back to you.

Being too much honest..? May effect your relationship

Are you being tooo honest with your loved ones..? Then you need to think once cause that may show some effect to your relationships....To know why and what click read more...!

As much as we value honesty in all relationships, there are times when too much honesty can cause its own set of problems. Now I’m not advocating deliberately withholding information in your relationship, but depending on the timing and circumstance there are times when “complete” honesty is overrated. Of course one person’s version of how much honesty they need in their relationship does not always match up with their partner’s honesty requirements, but there are still certain guidelines that can help you decide what information needs to be revealed and when it needs to be revealed.

Too Much, Too Soon- Most people have things about themselves that are very personal that are difficult to share with others. These are the kind of topics that need to be shared slowly as your relationship progresses from casual to serious. During the “getting to know you stage” these things should never be shared because they are likely to overwhelm the person that is trying to get to know the basics about you and you will feel embarrassed about revealing these things if this revelation does drive the other person away. For example, if you were abused in your past, this is important for your partner to know as your relationship becomes serious. Even though it’s an important part of your life, it is not something that a person that you are recently dating needs to know. You need to get past learning whether you have similar personalities and likes and dislikes before you delve into the big issues.

Think before you spew your opinion- Everyone has an opinion, but sometimes expressing them is potentially hurtful. For example, if you point out that he’s wearing his ratty old shirt again or that he loaded the dishwasher incorrectly, or he points out that he liked your hair better before you got it cut, then you probably didn’t ask yourself what the effect of saying this would be. If the opinion that you are about to express is not one that will be received with happiness by your partner, then you should keep it to yourself until you find a way of expressing it that does not sound like criticism. Thinking before you spew out a negative opinion will save you numerous arguments, because most times when we blurt out an opinion that is really a criticism we are met with a criticism in return, and an argument is not far behind.

Don’t Ask and Your Partner Won’t Have to Tell- There are certain “loaded questions” that you should never ask in your relationship unless you are a glutton for punishment. Questions that fall into this category are ones like: “Am I prettier than your ex-girlfriend?” “Do you love me more than you loved him?” and the infamous “Does this make me look fat?” All these questions have only one “right answer” and even then, your partner will need to carefully craft an answer to avoid saying the wrong thing. Unless you are trying to deliberately assess your partner’s ability to tap dance around delicate issues, no good can come from asking these questions.

So yes, honesty is vital to any relationship, but so is knowing when to keep quiet. Knowing the proper timing to reveal sensitive information about yourself and making sure that your “honesty” is not just criticism are two important considerations before you proceed with what you are about to share. And of course, sometimes the best way to avoid the topics that are irrelevant and potentially hurtful to your relationship is to be proactive by not asking any of the questions that you don’t really want answered.

Thats what i have to say...

Bringing Up The Topic Of Marriage Counseling to Spouse

Speaking in all honesty, nobody can really say that the idea of receiving marriage counseling is something to rave and brag about. Unfortunately, we sometimes get twisted up in our ideas of what right and wrong are. Take just a few seconds to think about why marriage counseling seems like something that you would not want to do. The chances are very high that your reasoning is that you do not want others to form a certain impression of you. Take another moment and ask if living up to the demands of others is really worth risking your relationship?

So what it your answer? We both know that you want your marriage to work, and if counseling is an option that appears to be appealing to you, why not give it a shot? It is not worth ignoring and avoiding simply because you feel that it might look weird to other people. Who cares? You did not care what people thought about you and your spouse when you first fell in love, why care when you are doing something that will improve that relationship?

Now how exactly do you go about actually bringing up marriage counseling with your loved one? Truth be told, there is always going to be that awkward feeling regardless of how much you "prepare" for it. On the positive side however, things are much smoother and easier once you actually go through it. Use your better judgement when deciding on when and where to bring up the discussion, and handle it as professionally as possible.

Explain to your partner that you have given some serious thought and consideration to your current situation, and you have decided that marriage counseling may be an ideal way to improve your relationship and iron out some of the rougher spots in both of your lives. Remember that you both love each other and want to make your relationship work, it is just that you are facing obstacles that are not common enough to know how to fix. A marriage counselor has training and experience in identifying and explaining how to solve these problems.

Allow your partner the time and space needed to think over the possibility of seeking out professional help for the relationship issues you are experiencing. If your partner has also been thinking about the same thing even before you brought it up, then they will most likely be willing. If not, reiterate the fact that you are both experiencing a new problem and should seek out third party help to fix it for the sake of your relationship.
In either case, things will proceed smoothly 99.9 % of the time. If you should be in the remaining 0.1%, then it may be time to evaluate your relationship with a different perspective. I wish you the best and hope that things work out for the better of your relationship.

Do you have your own story regarding relationship counseling? Please share and discuss below.


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